Has any one seen the hindi movie "Deewar", where in a scene Amitabh tells Shashi Kapoor, "Meray pass daulat hai, bangla hai, motor gari hai, tumharay pass kya hai", all Shashi Kapoor tells him is, "meray pass maan hai". For my non-hindi speaking friends it translates to some thing like this. In the hindi movie "Deewar", Amitabh Bachan asked his brother Shashi Kapoor, "I have got lot of wealth, I have a big house, cars, everything, what have you got", in reply, all he said was, "I have my mother with me". There is nothing more precious than your parents. Yes, there might be some cases where parents didn't live upto their responsibilities, such as a drunkard father worrying more about his booze, than to feed his children. For the children who say we don't have room in the house or flat for you, bloody hell how in the world you have room for yourself and your kids, but not your parents. I do not agree with that arguement. Although there might be problems in the family, but abandoning your parents is no excuse. If you have place in your heart for your parents, there will always be a place in your house to keep them. My mom lives with me and she will live with me until the day she departs this world, no matter what!! But my thanks to the orgnazations such as the one run by Ms. Savithri in Chennai that older women have a place to go and live out their old age with dignity and respect.
I agree with the statement of Madam Savithri Vaithi. It is a family problem and not a social problem.No one can stop that.
Abondoning parents are definetly not done whole heartedly. Have any one thought what the parent must have done to the children or or the dauhter in law. Every parent is happy when they see their daughter and her husband laughing happy and gay.Not all, but most of them are angry or show unhappaniness when they see their son and daughter in law happy laughing and chatting. What makes this differance? I had been more a father than a brother to four of my younger sisters. My parents have always been abroad.They sent money,I looked after their needs including social acticities.(arranging alliances and follow ons) My parents needed me for this and did not think of my marriage. The family business taken care by me was ruined due to heavy drawings during the difficult periods of my family. My father died leaving back a hevy legacy in cash as deposits in banks. All the sisters wanted an equal share as per law.(In my comunity the girls are weded off with huge wealth as dowry. No share is given.)After 5 years of waiting we concluded to settle amongst us in equal shares along with my mother.Later on I got married to a girl from a family who was very very low when compared to our wealth since I was 39 than(It was no doubt anmarriage arranged by my mother).At the time of finalising I made it clear to my mum that they will not be able to gift her dauhter on special occasions as she has done to her daughters.She said she would be satisfied if we both were happy. I had a late issue.My mum demanded a huge sum for the function to be held to celebrate my wifes pregnancy(valaikappu).my inlaws were not able to give. My mum insisted that I extort it from them by any means.I did not yeild. The result is my wife is not welcomed back after her delivery. I went to see my child and wife agianst her wishes. I had incured some liabilities for the ruined family business. My wife had given her money and jewels for the revival of the riuned business. the business could not be revived. I could not buy even a kilo of rice a day .When my freinds told the situation to my mum, she said, he did not listen to my words. so I dont care what is and will happen. I met her and said kindly settle the liabilities that I had personally incurred on behalf of the family business and pay back my wife's money and jewls. she said "I dont care about your liabilities and ask your wife to tally the amounts and jewels for what she has eaten from this house.(Four years of living in that house.) Now at the age of 46 I am in a foreign country earning to settle my liabilities and to make a living, leaving back my wife and daughter in my in laws custody. The last sister who was not married till last has just got married, out of the way .My mum had stood by for this act. my mum has given away all the property movable and immovable to that darling daughter(millions of rupees), giving nothing to the other three daughters. In this case how do you expect the other three daughters to take care when the mother has not been fair to them.I had spent the boom period of my life for the family. Now I am with a debt start. I dont know how long it is going to take for me to reach the zero point. In this case How can one expect me to take care of her.
RE:Why are the putting pictures of street beggars ?
by on May 01, 2007 05:59 PM Permalink
Good perspective!
A lil caveat though, here, the reference is given to the "age" and whether they have the ability to get their daily means. Some homeless on the streets are merely lazy to do anything and fall back on to the streets, they must not be included in the lot, IMHO. Thanks.
Love can't be demanded .. Love is not like duty ..
If one person's desirability, maturity and inherent worth can't move the other person; and if all one person have is to in debt people to him/her, then they are preying on other person's guilt.
of the woman clad in white saree. Agreed, we are born not because of our intentions... and it becomes the parents to bring us up well. But they could have always left us in lurch, if they had thought of the woman clad in white saree... Hope I am making sense here.....
Please ask the sons and daughters who come with their parents to abondon them at your place, if they would like to have copy of documents made ready for them too.. Better to be prepared. Just in case there children may not have this much of time also to take them to any such place for abandoning.
