This is a stupid calculation. First compute how many families are there in Bangalore. Arrive at what percentage of people of Bangalore Domicile ever work in IT sector. How many people are working in IT sector? How many are married to be eligible to go for divorce? How many have ever approached for divorce? How many are divorced?
RE:Bangalore: The rising divorce rate in the IT sector
by apurva singh on Aug 17, 2007 03:12 PM Permalink
for every case filed, there will ten who are thinking of it, and hundred who have not yet woken to it. remember this is india and people somehow drag dead marriages till as long as possible, or for ever. it is indeed true that a large number of singles and divorcees are emerging in bangalore.
The basic reason is the sick aping of the Americans blindly. And more so the kind of money with the people who does not deserve them either. That money are supposed to be spent on the commodities of a different culture; a culture pretty known for its intolerance and faithlessness. I would put forward a comparison. The basic salary of an IIT Asst. Prof is around 12,000 rupees. And look at these software slaves, probably with a sinngle digit IQ, earns more than a few times of that IIT faculty. This gives them a false impression of a self justified superiority complexion based solely on their purchasing power. This complexion develops an intolerance towards every other Tom, Dick and Harry. Such social/professional intolerance slowly but steadily encroaches the personal life too. And the end result is what we witness. A set of highly intoxicated promiscuous imagoes on the shelf to be catered to every possible bug.
RE:Who is the culprit?
by Sunil DeSousa on Aug 18, 2007 01:45 PM Permalink
I am so totally with you,You have framed the right words. This definetely one of the finest reasons
To present Bangalore as an example is partial. There are other IT hubs too, what is the data and why not present those too. Atleast the level of awareness will increase. Else, one is bound to be inclined to think as though only IT employees in Bangalore have this problem.
The news is depressing and shows the people in IT industry in poor light. Not withstanding the one in million employees of cos like Infosys, professing that, their job is a heavenly experience, the rest of the million may not agree, even in the same company.
Life styles cannot overcome natural traits and capacities. Women are truly made of tough material, but life style can undo all the strengths. They are cut out for good, intelligent and hard work, but not combined with eating junk food, drinking, smoking, or other unnatural habits.
There are excellent opportunities to design their life styles peppered with eating habits, yoga, pursuing hobbies, reading, travelling etc.
Gals and Maams started thinking and save your souls.
Everyone needs to maintain a balance in life thats the only solution for happy life. We gain some and loose some. When we get greedy and loose the balance problems arise. Why is it that britain has strict labour laws. IT firms are generally international they drag us for long hours not the people of their own country and this is just because we do agree to drag ourself for long hours sacrificing our loved ones just for want of more money. What if we die who will remember us or pray for us? Our company or our family?
Females getting jobs in IT sector, getting better pay what they never expected, leaving their homes, staying in hostels,getting complete freedom from their parents, all these are a contributing factor to Divorce. They feel that why should they be a slave to their husbands when they earn more than their husbands. These kinds of thoughts automatically climb into their minds when they live in Bangalore. (Not all females i am talking about, but the majority of them). They feel as if they are in a wonderland, all these freedom and money make them loose their attitude towards a family life. I will do what ever i want , who are you to question me- this is the attitude of these females to their husbands. All these are the reasons for increasing cases of Divorce. Also working late in the evenings causes doubts in their husbands. There are lots of opportunity in this SW industry where men and women cheats their parterners. Lots of divorce are caused due to this also. Now the main thing is money, and flirting and no family values. FAMILY VALUES- All those are gone days. ALL THESE ARE THE AFTER EFFECTS OF THE GLOBALISATION. May be after 5 to 10 yrs from now, it will be very difficult to see marriages, only contracts between two people and living together. Like Americans and Europeans do........
RE:RE:more money more divorce
by Surekha bapat on Aug 16, 2007 11:01 PM Permalink
Though I am a woman I accept what you saying.No dought todays women are free but they should show maturity for marriage.todays woman with lot of money to spend by her own show fantacy about marriage and when they face the reality they land for divorce.Though they enjoy complete freedom at their working places still in our family systems girl has to adjust more than a boy and that is a reality which if she wants to marry should accept.
RE:more money more divorce
by Shikha Chopra on Aug 17, 2007 01:48 AM Permalink
So in a way, all of you accept that for a marriage to succeed, the woman has to make efforts. I dont see any one of you even realising the fact that its not just wmen, but men too who face the same kind of dilemmas, and are certainly allowed to be immature throughout their lives, be it about their wives' careers or otherwise.
RE:more money more divorce
by asdf jkl on Aug 17, 2007 12:44 PM Permalink
What a stupid argument. It is not only girl who gets married. Responsibility for maintaining a smooth married life lies with both the partners.Bar from islamic countries and country like India where illiteracy is so high and people are still in the 17th century where women either don't work or leave their job after marriage, women everywhere are working and happy. Any human has rights to earn and be independent. If the divorce rate is increasing it is because working women cannot be trated as doormats anymore and this hurts the big ego of guys as is reflected on above posts. And if the reason of divorce is Overtime at work then India should better check Labour Laws. As per Intl regulations, working hour should not be more than 40 hrs/week
I am glad it is hapening for a reason. Now people will get meaningfull dates from these woman, who are hungry for the company. Also, I am glad finally women are waking up and not putting up with these so called tired and phyically compromised men.
RE:Divorces
by kapil on Aug 16, 2007 03:51 AM Permalink
You look like one of the frustrated morons who is seeking company of women badly and calling it as meaning ful date..lol... Life is not about parting.. it's about living together n trying to find solution to the common problems.
