....continued...Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest... I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realised she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and
...continued....obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I did'nt have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a months time and she did'nt want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clap
...the malaise of USA which is divorce is affecting us too. However I came across something very interesting from the USA on divorce: Worth Reading!!!
"When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me f
Those fake "westerners" of Indian origin who live in India, but persistently talk about efficiency due to possession of some wealth are those entirely responsible for such grave situation amidst working couple especially in Bangalore! These moneyed fellows try always to identify themselves with those of western countries in sustained propaganda about efficiency in comparison with abroad! Perhaps, their quitting India permanently to settle in abroad, in their most efficient country of their own choice , instead of such fake comparisons can solve both the problems! In a nation, predominantly populated with people below poverty line without even one time food, can efficiency be equated with those with overflowing resources? Is it not a simple analogy? It is said wherever Goddess Lakshmi thrives, Goddess Sarawathy doesn%u2019t dwell!
RE:Throw out those few who need luxury of US in poorest nation!
by Manjula A on Aug 22, 2007 02:36 PM Permalink
Divorces are painful dear Sir, but even more painful are dowry deaths (or bride burning), bigamy, domestic violence, sexual harrasment by in-laws etc. Please don't be so one-sided. Women are also humans.
2001 number of cpls in IT sector working ....x 2002 number of cpls in IT sector ....x y 2003 number of cpls in IT sector ....x y z 2004 number of cpls in IT sector .... .... 2005 number of cpls in IT sector .... ... .. 2006 number of cpls in IT sector ....... 2007 number of cpls in IT sector ......... (Direct Proportion Ofcorzzzz)
Obviously there should be increase in divorce cases ( to be proportional...!! thats it )
Nothing great...!! if u wanna provide stats do compare with other profession!!den i feel the information would be meaningful.
RE:Mislead ??
by on Aug 22, 2007 12:14 PM Permalink
stupid journalists... how many journalists got divorced or.. how many jounalists wifes ahas illegally making love with others plz provide that information too beacause it may be min of 90%
Marriege is a very special part of once life, if the couples are happy then definetly they will find or feel the happiness of heaven on this earth only otherwise it be hell or worse, But as we all know that Almighty has made Women and Man, He has also provided some guidence which we must follow, accordingly If possibe then women should or must devote maximum time to take care of their childrens because Mother is the first or the best school or University for the Child. Even Study says that Womens are more then Men and Childrens are more then Women, therefore If the Womens will provide or devote their precious time to their Child who will definetly an Icon specially for our Nation. Now its in the hand of our Womens (Sisters) to think and act for strong family and yes A Strong Nation India.
I would suggest people to take salary cut instead of breaking marriage. Let's set up calls with your onsite rep/customer at convenience to the Indian customers Distribute the load evenly among the members in the project. I know I will have very few takes, so there would be increasing number of divorce cases among IT professionals
1. Hug her every morning while u are still in bed 2. Call her during day to see how she is doing 3. after work call her before you leave for home, so that she can know when to expect you 4. Gifts on special occasions (birth day, anniversary) 5. When you arrive from work find her ,give her a hug and spend few minutes with her talking to her how her day went. 6 .help with dishes after dinner
4.Family commitment 1. Meals to gather as a family 2. Attending family meetings, religious services 3. Reading to children before bedtime 4...disciplining children 5. Planning family outings
finally We know divorce is not only a tragedy for children but it is also a tragedy for those who divorce. Because divorce creates such serious problems for families, children parents alike, and as society is made up of only families the value of marriage contract goes beyond the interests of husband and wife. It%u2019s valuable to their children, to extended members of their family and to all f society. Government has an obligation to support all such contracts involving the society and hence Laws protecting marriages are important. As in here it includes change in labor laws as one of the reasons for the raising trend in divorcé is the working out of hours (6.30pm to 8am on weekdays, and also the whole of weekends, Bank Holidays and public holidays) hours which should be spent with the family. These are some of the ways 1.file suit in industrial tribunal and labor courts 2.write t
