RE:would anyone see a reason beyond sex for divorce here.....
by Chanakya on Aug 02, 2007 04:16 PM Permalink
Ganesh..what is your views? let us take a thread..
Dear Divorce couple, I am a marrie person, both of us are workign. Many time we fight, still both are happy leaing our good life. Whever any problem occure please try to communicate each other, If we keep ego then totally life has gone. Couple divorce each other thinkign that they can lead own life / partner is not his / her coice n cant adjust. REmember one thing, if you are good then worl is goo to you. First u be a better person then partner also will be good to you. If he/she is not able toadjust with the partned then whats the guerent that person will adjust with the person after remarriage? The best solution is communicate communicate and communicate each other and ask your partner why thing are happenign. tHEN BOTH WILL have goo life if there is understang and love. This is what i learned form my marriage life , expressing it to others.
RE:Good understang is required
by PRATAP PARIDA on Aug 02, 2007 04:16 PM Permalink
if company's try to put day shift for married person then problem solved. and un- married person doing very good job for night shift. i think its good option to save anyone relationship. and its not for company work every couples try to avoid night shift job. then they share time to each other and make a happy life also.
Mainly IT companies and BPO's are recruiting people left right and center, due to salary issues,they bent upon listening to their employers and their orders just to safeguard their jobs. Obviously and psychologically they tend to lose their interest in social and physical relationship.
Sexual life is one of the most element once get married. But if you ask me, I'm working in the field where lot of pressure everyday, but i will make it a point how you sexually arouse your other partner to come for a physical relationship. it applies for both male/female sex.How much ever tired you are, incase you arouse and invite the parter, they will surely not say no, if you are making a mistake somewhere. I'm not taking any classes, but this is one of the ways you can avoid going for divorces, mainly if it's physical relationship, this for sure will work,Otherwise the Employer has to find out a better solution and bring out a balance for the work as well as social/familial life
I strongly believe this all about the QUALITY TIME you spend with the family rather than just sex or bed. My suggestion is stick to your office timing and once you enter the home forget the work until the next morning you step into the office. But if you don't show that you are working harder , someone will and with the population and competition, in India it is difficult.
money? for whom? to the employee or to the employer? In most of the cases, it is the fear of losing jobs that womenfolks sit late and work so as men. Think that India of 5 years back with the unemployment problem...these so called IT companis and BPOs created thousands of jobs and improved the standard of living and increased the purchasing power of educated youngsters... Thus to keep the standard of living and to protect the employment, they are, whether or not necessary, sometime keep hanging around the office till late evening...ofcourse, there are genuine cases too..
But, ultimately, it is abusing of labor by the employers to earn that quick money/profit and grab whatever projects come in their way, with little or no addition to the workforce.
Unless, the attitude of the entrepreneurs/management changes and takes a call on giving importance to the employees personal life too, we can only expect the situation to worsen in the days to come...
Not only Bangalore, it could spread in all IT parks and Smart cities...
RE:it is not for money..rather....
by kapil on Aug 02, 2007 04:08 PM Permalink
you are 100% right bhai..i agree you fully...in my office these gals do the same...
1.There has been a boom in IT sector for what all it pays to the IT'ans so they run behind work to earn more.
2.People are exposed to computer for almost 8-12 hours which leads to tiredness of eyes and brains which ultimately results in urge to sleep rather than having sex.
3. More the access to computers more we forget the simple things which makes us happy. (Example : have u imagine how happy cud ur life partner will be if u leave a note on paper saying "i love u" rather than a long email.)
4. If both the partners are in IT than according to US survey they are less prone to sex towards each other.
5.If any one among two are in IT sector even then there are chances of divorce as less amount of time is soent with each other.
6. Beyond all this extra martial affairs in office is also a reason (obivously human being sastisfies themself by one or another way)
7. And the most important ..... There shud be a Healthy conversation between both for each others like and dislikes.
RE:Try to be Happy in Small things
by Amitabh on Aug 03, 2007 03:43 AM Permalink
Just beautiful ! I could see adrenalin gushing. Thanks, i have copied it w/o permission :). This also reminded me of my past affairs. Love is great so why fight .. love ur spouse.
RE:90% of women inIT Industry....
by Rohini Nair on Aug 02, 2007 04:34 PM Permalink
We all know that you would be the presenter in the workshop!! Good going!!
