RE:welcome to bangalore culture
by iq on Aug 03, 2007 12:47 AM Permalink
You are right. Calcutt and Chennai are the ones who have big Tandoors to burn live women
i do counseling sessions for IT couples, what we do is i talk to both separately, then test-drive the girl to ensure marital success as a final step, ethical and discreet service
It is disturbing to note that the divorce cases in IT areas are going up. The rat race for money is going to hang our age old marriage system with both giving up something in return which is slowly disappearing nowa days. Are our next generation going to get doomed?
RE:Divorce
by mr on Aug 03, 2007 12:37 AM Permalink
Everybody want population control. Why not it be termed as happy sign. No, because it is an IT department???
RE:Divorce
by Aravind K on Aug 03, 2007 12:56 AM Permalink
Dont take me wrong. But you think if your parents get divorced for such reasons, then its good.
Long working hours in the IT field and divorces are two different issues. The new economy has provided greater financial independence to the fairer sex and that has brought up issues that have so long stayed under the surface in the Indian society in general. The long working hours in the IT World is a unique phenomenon by iteself. This is an unhealthy practice that the IT Management is employing and will cause harm in the long run. The unhealthy working hours will cause early burn-outs, depression and other health and social problems - one of them being marital - especially when the female counterpart is out of the home for long hours. I am at a loss to understand the Indian offshore model is based on the extra long working hours model? The IT entrepreneurs will end up killing the "hen" that lays the golden egg, with this approach.
RE:Systemic Problems
by iq on Aug 03, 2007 12:36 AM Permalink
Why everyone pointing at women only? Why dont you see that one of your sister is going through this kind of tough time? or one of your female friend is going through this kind of tough time.
Most of the current days (Love) marriage end in divorce because of misunderstanding about life. Love before marriage is like a dream world. You think life is like heaven and there is no obstacles and we understand each other well.
Many of them get married with the above said illution. Real world is totally different. There will be fight and friction which is inevitable. Modern Boys and Girls does not have enough patience to wait and win over their Spouse. Many of the young couples live away from their parents which is also another reason for failure of marriage. Parents will guide you through hardship of life. But the modern society and particularly Girls see their in-laws as villans. They want to live away from them and the price they pay for it, is very high like divorce.
The Western life style is a Hell. You have freedom to to anything you want and you end up in making wrong choice 90% and end up with miserable life.
Indian life style (before 2000) is the opposite, you do not have much freedom or much choice. You will learn to live with what you have and you will have a contented and long lasting relationship.
RE:RE:RE:Patience wins....
by RamRamRam on Aug 03, 2007 12:58 AM Permalink
I am not saying divorce is bad always. But it should be the very last option. In current days the seems Divorce come as the first thing.
My point is the Modern Western Life style is driving us crazy. We are loosing Patience and Family Values. If you are hooked up to the modern life style then all my thought will be wrong for you.
RE:Patience wins....
by stepin on Aug 03, 2007 02:37 AM Permalink
Well written, the younger gen has less patience which is the root cause, it's not just male or female, the problem lies with both of them.
