since "Love Marriage" happens after experiencing the LOVE, nothing will be there to love after marriage. It will be smooth only untill there are no obstacles like finacial problems, diversion in jobs...etc. Even if there is a small change in the social status of the either husband or wife, it can lead to disaster of life with egos. As we say sometimes "Love should be un-conditional", we should not love with the condtion of getting married.
RE:Love Marriage...
by vijay bagate on Jun 13, 2006 04:36 PM Permalink
Dear Sir, Always girls are not wrong.My opinion is that only some girls are like that not all girls. Some Girls are know that What is true Love.
How you can spend a whole life with the person which u don't love. whether marriage is love or arrenged Bottom Line and Truth of Life is "All marriages are happy. It's the living together that causes problems." It's all adjustment for the need of both men/women.
RE:Re:Love Marriage
by mahesh m on Jun 08, 2006 07:27 PM Permalink
hi,
my opinion about love marriage is nothing. love marriage is bulshit. the objective of love marriage is to hurt parents and destroy family rules, rituals and traditions and respect. the girls are no 1 in hurting parents and satisfying their own silly mind desires. girls are selfish in having marriages and they dont know whom to marry. they are cheating all the good boys and having love with gundas, terrorists. for girls, love marriage is bulshit. there is no good girls find in this world.
as per my knowledge, both are not wrong. coz in the case of love marriage girl and boy they understand very well, so that thay can lead a life with mutual understanding,
in the case of arranged without knowing each other marriages are taking place. later also they can understand each other by mutual co-ordination and consistency. but in both the cases consistency and patience is required. if love cum arranged that will be far better.
RE:arranged v/s rigistered marriage
by suraj on Jun 12, 2006 01:13 PM Permalink
Hello there! That the way it is,AM or LM..both are fine,it depends the way one take it. The whole thing is that "Do What u wanna to DO and Respected others Decision".So no one is loser here. Ultimately Its your life - One Life and You Decide.
it depends on how you take it.. love is NOT a poison.. u might have experienced something harsh related to love..but when taken care properly it would be a nice experience..
I have seen the article "Love Marriages -Lot of adjustments" my comments
In almost all marriages an adjustment is required whether it is a arranged or love. In my case also it is love marriage, the difference is that we are from two different states she is from kerala and i am from Andhra. Both the languages and food habits are different, even though for the last 13 years we are living happly. We adjust to oppossite problems. Now, she knows our knowledge, but i can't speak malayalam, when ever I went to inlaws house previously my wife and now my childred become translators.
Love marriage is today's need.. Now time had changed.. We can't suffer with that person whom we not know very much... It will be a compromise to marry with that person to whom our family select.. Today is the time to change the mentality... I think Love cum Arrange Marriage are the best one...
RE:love marriage
by Aarif on Jun 08, 2006 06:23 PM Permalink
Yes it is absolutely true that love marraige is too much adjustment becoz after marraige only u come to terms with the negative part of your partner before that both of them are too cool and understanding but after marraige this all goes and small small things makes big issue just out of frustation coz both come to know each others merits and demerits atleast in arranged marraige everything takes time to come to light and both are able to manage it pretty cool coz they see good and bad both at the same time but in love marraige all is good before and all bads come after marraige, life becomes nothing more than a bag of compromizes if u really want to stay in the relation or else there is nothing easy then getting divorced or separated, its very essential that one of them has to compromize to such an extent that the other gains suprimacy and avoid useless discussions which are a hot bed for fights, it applies to both husband or wife, and now a days husbands are becoming more and more submissive than wifes and I am one of them, It doesnt mean that I am JORU KA GHULAM.I had taken this stand to save the relation, which has resulted only out of love not hatred..........
For any marriage to succeed, you need to have clear channels of communication with your partner. I have so many friends who have had love marriage but are hesitant to discuss even a very important issue like how many children to have...!! This kind of a scenario is acceptable in an arranged marriage but not acceptable in a love marriage-if after all you cannot discuss things with your partner freely, then what is the love all about???
