with deep agony my view is no..the main reason in a nuclear family both parents becomes too b usy to get all those materialistic needs by working like a dog and don't spend time with their kieth and kin..Even if one want to the monitory constraints do not give them the opportunity to make it a strong bonding..however the childeren when they reach their teenage get a counselling family nieces,nephews,cousins comes to their rescue with the availoable resources..Media and peer group inject different types of thoughts on which they get confused and become rebelleous and create a self centered situation...By the time the parents realise the survival is just a showmanship with cold relationship and manipulationultimately after the parents leave the planet they are (the children)in a very precarious situationand it goes on and on..and inter caste marriages takes a big toll and the origin of the family is slowly wiped off permemnently!!!
I agree with the view that if women are not treated well, then any type of family (whether joint or nuclear) is not good. Most often bad treatment of women starts due to husbands who do not have backbones, who do not believe in the rights and happiness of women, who are mouse outside their homes, but turn lion when inside.
However, joint family will be way to go if men are committed and would go to any length to protect their wives and children from other not so wise family members.
I am not surprised to see only males favouring and longing for survival of joint familes.
Being a female I know one thing that even most of the females would have loved to have joint familes if given the choice but IF and ONLY IF they are treated as the sons of family are.
I agree that joint-family system is "nation's most cherished cultural values ". But again the reason of only females stepping away from joint-families is, as author puts it so correctly, "the family is a great source of support to all of us, including women. On the other hand, I was also aware that, in many ways, it is the family that curtailed a woman's ability to pursue a career and locked her in a role dictated by gender rather than personal choice or ability."
I think whether or not joint-family systems will survive or not will depend on how it is adapting to a changing world. As author also says "Young people will expect the joint family to change to accommodate their special needs and requirements."
I am not surprised to see only males favouring and longing for survival of joint familes.
Being a female I know one thing that even most of the females would have loved to have joint familes if given the choice but IF and ONLY IF they are treated as the sons of family are. I agree that joint-family system is "nation's most cherished cultural values ".
But again the reason of only females stepping away from joint-families is, as author puts it so correctly, "the family is a great source of support to all of us, including women. On the other hand, I was also aware that, in many ways, it is the family that curtailed a woman's ability to pursue a career and locked her in a role dictated by gender rather than personal choice or ability."
I think whether or not joint-family systems will survive or not will depend no it is adapting to a changing world. As author also says "Young people will expect the joint family to change to accommodate their special needs and requirements."
It is all in the hands of the women, be it a mother-in-law or a daughter-in-law. Every man is in favour of a joint family but the final say is with the women in the family. They are the ones who decide to make it or break it. The circumstances that lead to a break up are a result of their choice while the reverse is not true. Women are mostly let down by their own community, in some cases the mothers -in-law by their daughters-in-law and in some the other way round. I hope most of the males would agree with me and am equally hopeful that their partners wont ever!
No harm in wishful thinking but slowly, but surely, the Indian family system is collapsing. Gone are the days when the head of the family joined a "permanent job" in his home town, supported his zillion brothers,sisters and aged parents. With shifting economic centers of growth and dynamically changing value system that tries to ape the Western culture in every fashion possible, families are becoming more and more nuclear. Earning power in the hands of teenagers and twenty somethings has changed their attitude towards life and Indian culture in general, promiscuity, inter-caste, inter-religious marriages that often end up in breaking existing ties.. I give all our family value system another ten to twenty years. I wish I can eat my words and live to see that I am wrong.
It has to. Joint family-This is the only value which separates us from others. The issue of nuclear family, well I am not so sure is good in the long run for societal social reponsibilites. Chow.
The Indian family has moved from the traditional "joint" to "nuclear" and is headed towards the "unclear". Family which is the primary social institution of "civilised" society will have its ups and downs and even periodic turmoil. Survival is certainly not the question but its revival.
