why do the girls or boys of both sides either from india or foreign lands do these kind of bullshits to the most sacred relationship.Can anybody initiate to break these bad reputes.
What ever has been mentioned in the article \\\"How to marry an NRI, safely\\\" is true for the people who hates NRIS and jealous of them. I am a victim myself as an NRI. I married an Indian girl who agreed to come to US after marriage. It has been two years and she is still in India. It is not just that, since these kind of articles comes out she takes the advantage of blaming me for everything.She created stories which is not true and she have ruined my life. It is us who should have guarentee that this should not happen. She is taking advantage of the Indian government and her being a girl but she is the culprit. I tried a lot to adjust with her and tried to explain her how important family is than anything else. She just does not listen.
Before some one writes such an article you should realise what the situation would be for the people like me.
RE:Views are wrong
by Neeru Bbs on May 30, 2007 11:33 AM Permalink
U are thinking of what happened with u.I'm not saying wat happend with u is incorredt or the girl cannot be faulty but wat happened with u is once in a blue moon but majority of the cases have shown the results of how thr nri's do bad to the indian girls.I myself am the victim try to observe both sides of the coin
I met him on net then continued by some meetings. The relationship went on for 7 years. I visited him many times in India. I really blind just because love him very much. During last 3 years I have paid everything for his life regarding with he was doing an MBA. I spent a lot of money. Now after he got MBA and I ask about the marriage ... I can not contact and found him ! Well if Indian women got bad treatment maybe as a KARMA from what some Indian men have done.
The booklet will be a boon. Also the Government must make the laws very strict and enter into bilateral treaties with various countries for extradition of offenders. It is important that the Govt. realises that people cannot get away after devastating somebody's life who is an Indian national and it is the duty of the Govt. to fight for its citizen's rights and see that justice is obtained. My own family went through a similar trauma year before last when we got my sister-in-law married to a U.S. national of Indian origin. After the marriage, it transpired that he did not obtain a legal divorce from his first wife - his American Divorce had been ex-parte and not submitted to by his first wife, resultantly she filed complaints against him and he had to wriggle out by a compromise deed with his first wife paying compensation out of court. He left for the U.S. immediately after the marriage and harrassed my sister-in-law over phone being abusive for 8 months after which he sent her a divorce decree. Ex-parte again.We could have charged him for bigamy but realised that the existing laws were not enough to extradite him to India.
This work is highly appreciable. The document seems rather comprehensive but the governent needs to ensure that it reaches all the people who are likey to get into such alliances.
RE:How to marry an NRI safely
by Neeru Bbs on May 30, 2007 11:38 AM Permalink
I agree with u usha .if u could give me some more informatin regarding the same,as i think we are related on human grounds,i would be highly obliged.As my marriage proposals are also being initiated with an NRI. My e-mail id is neeru3759@rediffmail.com
Why suggest so much of hard work and checklist to the brides family for an NRI groom? When your statements outright suggests how bad NRI groom can be.
Let the Indian Daughters Remain in India and marry in some villager, Farmer or Rickshaw wallah. Who would generally never go abroad and do such stuff. Plus with such kind of false propaganda of NRI's who are otherwise contributing so much to the country, do you think they will marry an Indian Bride?
You all have Dug Graves for the future of Indian brides. They are already blacklisted with most of the NRI's who have tasted and burnt their fingers as false victims of law.
and inspite of all this "Why work so hard for marriage? Is it money?"
The Govt.'s decision to regulate the marriage of Indian brides with the bridegrooms of NRI's is timely. But the Indian girls, though offered a decent fellow as a bride groom, do not accept him. It is because of the fact that they believe that opportunities are in plenty when once in abroad, as has been publicised here. They do not look in to the columns in the news papers describing the plight of Indians in other countries (very recently on the Indian physicians). The brides even insult the local businessmen, though they have landed properties. This is a plague found in the so called upper class of our society, spreading to the middle class girls. They must realise that it does not rain milk and honey abroad. It is our girls who dig their-own graves. Let the Government have an iron hand in this.
