what kushboo told is her own thought.As a citizen she has the right to express her thoughts through any medium.She didn't criticized any body mentioning names.So no way she has done a wrong thing.
The whole controversy started when Thankarbachan made a comment about female artists. Manorama, Kushboo and team protested and Thankar apologised. I see that there is no difference between Kushboo and Thankars issues. Person A made a comment that offended Group B. Whether its Thankar or Kushboo - the rules are same. Democracy is excercising your rights without encroaching others rights and sentiments. When person A hurts the sentiments of person B he/she has violated the priciples of democracy. Please answer this question directly: Would you say to your sister/daughter/son "Having Sex before marriage is OK. You just have to take the right precautions". That to me is a careless loose talk. Kushboo's intentions might have been correct, but she just was not able to articulate her ideas properly. The subject being so sensitive i would have adviced Kushboo to prepare/think and then make responsible statements.
Premarital Sex in India? I believe that should not be the case anywhere in the world! Sex plays a very tiny role in this vast episode of life.Life is more than sex! It's an intimate act between two persons joined together legally and mentally for pleasure and most important of all, the propagation of mankind. Sex can be healthy when it is inside the courts of the family and can have remarkable effects when handled in a noble way.
If sex was just physical, no one would have made this issue a big deal.But sex closely glues with morals too.No father wants his daughter to go about having sex. Even if she does, he hesitates to openly talk to others, because he feels its a moral issue for the entire family! Especially in India, women are respected because of their moral vow towards extra-marital and pre-marital sex. At this point a woman who is old and mature enough can teach and guide young women about abstaining from sexual sins. Most Indian moms do this.
Kushbu,a woman mature enough to guide other women in India to keep their moral vows by avoiding pre-marital sex.but on the contrary her advice was like urging them to waver from moral ethics and be safe from hazards!thatz crap!
RE:Responsibility mishandled!
by John Manoah on Jan 16, 2006 04:58 PM Permalink
Even if Kushboo's statements were about those unmarried 30 year olds, the resolution should have been well thought before professing. On the other hand she took over the whole mass and tried to be their voice. I personally believe that every individual has the right to represent a mass with their ideas. But on doing that, they are should watch out for words, meanings and the perspective with the impact after pronouncing. This is where Kushboo lost. She had personal views which she pronounced on behalf of others which is condemnable.
Be it 30 year olds or 80 year olds, moral ethics and values drive human race. It's the only difference that keeps us apart from animals...
RE:Responsibility mishandled!
by A.H. Venkatachalam on Nov 24, 2005 04:55 AM Permalink
It is better to elicit the views of those unmarried girls and boys who could not get married and become parents even though they crossed 30 and who did not enjoy sex because of false notions of values and interpretations of sex, culture, traditions and restrictions and policing indulged by the family and society they are living in. They were afraid. They need to be pitied all the more because they are also simultaneously exposed to pornographic materials dished out in television, internet and cinema halls and posters.
Its a shame that people protest against what Khushboo said in an interview. What happened to the Freedom of Speech and expression that is a fundamental right guaranteed under our constitution ? She only expressed her views, is a person not entitled to do that ? We live in a hypocritical society where one is expected to have certian "values", which go agianst normal human behaviour.
I feel every expression of opinion should be taken in positive way. If it is expressed all the factors affecting the social structure, personality and direction of the flow of feelings can be assessed, discussed and finally individual can be able to measure its merit and demerits. No one should have right to impose his feels on others, because right or wrong is the relative terminalogy which changes from time to time.
Brain less people, There are number of issues in Tamil nadu that are yet to be addressed.
Kush/Suhasini are right for their comments. Who is the custodian of the culture here? The politicians have more than one wife who protests her statements. The most stupidest people are the Tamil politicians who are job less now.
