Woman is precious, juggling between work, home, and doing her level best to satisfy everyone's needs, taking care of home, husband, children, in laws, parents .. How many guys can do this??
Not many guys understand this fact...... Please appreciate "HER" .. She is precious!!!!! A girl, who is as much educated as you are; Who is earning almost as much as you do; Who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are Who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements But, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; Who is expected to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to; And is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; And is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you; One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as Much as you do for 20-25 years of her life But has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home,
RE:sree
by Preeti on Mar 07, 2008 06:29 PM Permalink
things are changing now.. Guys these days are quite understanding and sensitive to the issues u mentioned. They do try to chip in as much as they can.. And pls, no one expects a woman in the house to be a servant as u mentioned
normally women in corporate of world are hired to increase the glamour quotient of their office and nothing else. Women are good in attaending telephone calls, clerical monotonous works ( without the need to use brain)and walking on the fashon parades
Whatever you said is unacceptable..women are process oriented and more efficient..i have seen so many women managing team..you have mentioned that without the need to use brain..no work can be done without the usage of brain..and no management is fool enough to hire those women not putting stuff in work..
RE:noramlly
by Preeti on Mar 07, 2008 06:25 PM Permalink
I completely agree with Yavanika.. Navneet, go to any software company and see. There would be as many women as men. So ur saying that the company is hiring 50% of their staff to increase "glamour quotient" of the workplace??? And no company would hire women if they weren't "using their brains" in ur language or not being productive enough
RE:noramlly
by Swathie on Mar 07, 2008 11:35 AM Permalink
Hello Navneet,
I think to a degree that is not a fair assessment. Men and women have different skill sets due to biological compulsions and it is better to concentrate on their individual strengths than compare to demean each other. It is better to accept each other for what they are and their strengths are.
RE:noramlly
by Navneet on Mar 07, 2008 11:46 AM Permalink
In my last 15 years of experience in high corporate world, unfortunately women in offices are taken for adding that added glamout factor. It is not wrong. I myself have taken few girls for the office to look good fun filled, eventhough there are lot of males who were much better. Nothing wrong in accepting that. Just look at the 20/20 world cup matches. Mostly women are the cheer leaders to attract the crowd. Nothing wrong in that. If given an option between male and female, i will opt for female as my collegue, even at the cost of (little ) capabilities.
RE:noramlly
by Krishna Narasimhaswamy on Mar 08, 2008 01:12 PM Permalink
I think its your own little view point that not entirely true. My sister is heading a division in an MNC and she eats guys like you for lunch. She takes care of family/kids, its no joke. So please when you make a statement ensure to put disclaimers like 'its you own view point and doesn't represent the thinking of mass'
its a shame that we have suppressed women for so long, so far. who forced them look good always, who forced them to cook? who confined them to house/kitchen its you men. hope this changes and women get more liberty and power to take care of themselves without being profiled.
RE:noramlly
by rakesh on Mar 07, 2008 12:12 PM Permalink
you need to fine tune your English. It should be - 'I have great Respect for women' May be you were busy hiring female coleagues in alst 15 years.
RE:noramlly
by on Mar 07, 2008 12:28 PM Permalink
I dont know Navaneet how can u say like that? but the fact is i am working for a IT company..and most of the Project Managers are women..they are really very efficient... supryia
RE:noramlly
by h o on Mar 07, 2008 01:52 PM Permalink
Managing project in India for a overseas client is run of the mill kind of job. All it needs to client interaction skills and good beauty full dresses and faces to attract and tie the client and make him/her feel comfortable.
Yes women have higher EQ so that also helps to an extent. But many women in corporate world are very selfish too.
Normally People sufferring from inferiority complex or ignored indulge in all such activities.Men and women both have significant role to play in nature. Child born first develops love with mother only, on attaining maturity, again with a female only. Their importance cannot be reduced. Logically otherwise I am still to find a female more beautiful comparing to male in any living body except humans viz. dog, horse, lion,birds, snake, etc.,etc., are more attractive comparing to their counter part femals.If anyone knows exception, please let me know.
RE:Women Day
by Nihir Pathak on Mar 07, 2008 01:57 PM Permalink
I very much agree with your view "Normally People sufferring from inferiority complex or ignored indulge in all such activities.Men and women both have significant role to play in nature. "
Every day is womens day.I think it is not required to celebrate any day particularly.But having said that the purpose behind having a womens day should be that when you specify a day for women maybe a thought will be spared at least on that day for her welfare, her health, her state of mind and her happiness.In an urban middle and upper class households we see equality between the men and women in a family to a large extent but rural India is still a different cup of tea. Not only rural India even in a city in an uneducated labour class family women are abused and tortured. My maid tells me every second day that her husband hit her the night before. He is a plumber who works two days a week and then drinks away all his earnings for the rest of the week.She runs the household, feeds her kids, sends them to school hoping for a better future for her children and now she is also saving some money to buy a plot of land.When I tell her she is better off without a husband as it will mean a mouth less to feed she says he will die if i kick him out, no one will feed him. Her biggest problem is a 'WOMAN'her mother in law who supports her son in spite of all this. For me my maid is the unsung hero, CELEBRATE HER WOMANHOOD.
RE:womens day
by Swathie on Mar 07, 2008 10:44 AM Permalink
Dear Sita,
For every maid who undergoes torture like this there are 10 men who undergo torture by criminal wives. This is something evident from crime record bureau statistics itself. No one denies that women are harassed but does that mean it is fair to harass other innocent women and men? the problem with this one sided sad stories is that they always fail to recognize the abuse going other way around. There are so many reports of criminal women murdeing their husbands. So, should we now say arrest ALL WIVES AND HER ENTIRE FAMILY WITHOUT PROOF? But this is what is happening to men and his families with the same silly execuse.
Yes there is a mother in law who harasses daughter in law, but for every one such mother in law there are 10 daughter in laws who torture their mother in laws by breaking their families, demanding to live seperately, verbally abusing and NOW LEGAL ABUSE including wrong jailing because all it takes is just one false verbal complaint and by law it need not be verified at all. It takes 10 to 15 years to prove it was wrong and by that time IT IS TOO LATE.
All these can be prevented by one small change. Jail a person after investiagation. When 98% of cases have been proven to be false after 10 years of investigation this is a very ligitimate demand. Also, if the case is false then punish the folks who have put false cases with same punishment as prescribed in the relevant dowry law. This will deter the 98% abusers of law and help the 2% genuine vic
RE:womens day
by sita shanti on Mar 08, 2008 08:47 PM Permalink
Whos talking of punishment? And frankly my maid wouldnt even think of punishing her husband.Also the daughters in law that Swathie is talking about are the elite well to do girls whose life style would suffer if there are elders in the house.In the labour class there still thrives a joint family system, they still do take care of their inlaws even if they fight. And I beg your pardon I am no Sita devi.Thats a name my father gave me. Fortunately my family respects me for what I am , we are all equals in my house, I dont need a womans day seperatel y
RE:womens day
by suresh kumar on Mar 07, 2008 11:07 AM Permalink
Well Expressed!! Human nature is at work among both the sexes and 'Self-centredness' of any human being is the cause behind all extremes or abuses! Thanks!!
RE:womens day
by Gyani ji on Mar 07, 2008 11:21 AM Permalink
sitadeviji.....the answer lies in your question itself.....if the mom of ur maids husband wud hv taught him good lessons earlier this situation wud not hv arised......even now shes favouring her son only leavin ur maid apart......now whos the biggest enemy of ur maid.....??? her husband or her mother who born & boughtup him in that fashion......
as written in the article above, women today are playing many more roles than could even been imaagined some 15 yrs ago. Therefore, its all the more important to celebrate the creation of God called women.
However, I completely agree, that now that we have achieved this much, we need to go further and help the down trodden classes as well and strengthen them. some people have mentioned something about the biological differences between men and women, which is very true, but i think you just need to be reminded that this world goes round because of both men and women, therefore, the much hyped equal opportunity for women folk is well deserved.
for those people who are concerned about the men fold being harresed by wives, i just wanted to bring you back to the fact that Women's day celebration is not just to celebrate "Wives"...all women- sisters, sister-in-laws, mothers, mother-in-laws, daughters and wife all fall in this perview. I'm sorry, i do not have the stats about how many men suffer through the hands of their wives, but i belive change is the only constant and therefore, this will also change soon, given the efforts that are being made. Hope you all become the best human being that you can be and spread love and cheer among both men and women....and a very happy Women's day to all of you (men folk, you can pass it on to all the women in your lives :))...
I do not see a point in the Indian style of bringing equality which always creates unequals!!
The point is all women shud be respected as any other individual, all women should have equal opportunity as any other individual !!!
But shud we do it the idiotic way the Indian law makers want it to be ? which creates more unequals than it creates equality.Actually it comes from our lawmakers colonial mindset 'to undo a sin one more sin is necessary'
Now our Beloved India is a country of 'sinners'
Please for heaven sake come of this mindset.
Eqality means EQUAL OPPORTUNITY IN EVERY POSSIBLE ASPECT OF LIFE , No bearing on the "GENDER"
God what r we discussing in this 21 century just because I am born in India !!!!!!
