I am shobha and i have done my BE and didn't get a single chance to work in any company because as soon as i completed my BE i got married and went to US and came back India after 2yrs and started looking for job immediately i got pregnant. Like this it went 4yrs now my son is going to school and now i am getting bored sitting and home and now i am looking for some live project can you please help me out from this.
My daughter is MS in S/W and now settled in Bangalore and bringing up her kids.She was looking for such project like the SCIP. Is their any chance for SCIP to start at Bangalore where many qualified ladies are House wifes and like to work but cannot on regular timings due to family constraints.Request advice.
Opting out of carrers is a personal choice. But for those who had to here's a wonderful oppurtunity to get your brains get going.Ofcourse it involves moving around with a min of 4 hrs of devotion.send me a mail at manib@rediffmail.com and I'll get in touch with you.
I am a career girl, who used to draw more salary than my husband.I had a transfer with a promotion and my husband agreed to move with me to my new station.There , he could not find a sufficiently remunerative job and soon had to decide to become a stay-home- husband, looking after me and my domestic front, so that I could concentrate on my career.Cannot more of my friends adopt this approach? Now both of us are happy!
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by bigboss on Apr 22, 2008 08:18 AM Permalink
i too dont have a job right now and m single will any girl marry me m ready to b a stay home husband looking after all domestic work
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by jayaraj on Apr 22, 2008 05:28 PM Permalink
Americans never had women on top jobs. Candidly speaking, they think Women are for bed only. All the glamor and beauty industry exploiting women started from westerners! Dont we see this in their culture? They say men are ready to help at home! However, that doesnt mean American men will allow Women to head organisations or their country! Even here we can see that ultimately, it will be Obama or John not Hillary!
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by yashovathi yashovathi on Apr 22, 2008 08:31 AM Permalink
That's lovely to hear Nalini,,,I too have a journalist frind , a male, who is working from home because his soft ware engineer wife couldnt stay away from jobs w/o losing out on core competencies...their little girl had Mom with her for the first crucial year, and then Dad took over...I am so happy to hear the positive vibes in your reply...but of course it takes a man without the typical Indian mind set to accept this...you can see that from the other responses...
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by BVR Murthy on Apr 26, 2008 07:28 PM Permalink
If a wife is unable to stay at home and going to work she is called 'financially independent'. If the husband works hard all day and comes home, there is hardly any credit to his hard work, because it is expected of him. Comparisions take us anywhere :)
I don't know what is typical Indian mindset here refers to but I feel it is normal for me to feel respect to provide for my wife and family and I take great pride in it. I wouldn't mind even if I lose my job and my wife provides for me, but I cannot stay like that forever, it is natural of me.
What do you mean by indian mindset,. Our grandparents were better than current so called housewife concept introduced by westerners, my grandma even after having six children went out to work in fields,took care of agriculture, my grandpa was doing the business.
This so called housewife was introduced by people who wanted dominate women,not by people who wanted to share responsiblities
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by Sur G on Apr 22, 2008 05:16 PM Permalink
Lot of women still work in the fields even today. However such does not make them financially independent. Such working women have nothing to call their own. When we talk about working women today we talk about financially independent women who have an identity of their own and can easily survive on their own.
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by CHANTY SATAPATHY on Apr 26, 2008 12:05 PM Permalink
who said if u r working and earning then u r more financially or socially independent. How many times have u spent your own hard earned money without consulting your dear husband or if at all u have in laws? It is just that u are working more than ur hubby any way inside and out side home. U might have an identity of ur own but financial independence???
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by nalini menon on Apr 25, 2008 09:07 PM Permalink
Hiyashovathy, Thanks for the very sympathetic and understanding response.You are right in your assessment of the typical Indian male's attitude. nalini.
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by BVR Murthy on Apr 26, 2008 07:22 PM Permalink
I don't say either good or bad here, but it is indeed commendable that you and your spouse are able to share responsibilities equally. I hope that also sets down in every persons mindset (man and women) alike.
I though have a question here -- I wonder how many Indian women can accept the same thing what you said without their typical Indian women's attitude. :).
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by on Apr 26, 2008 11:13 AM Permalink
Awesome ! Impressive. I have a freind that has a career minded wife. He has compromised on his job and she is doing really well. But he hasnt probably given a thught of being at home to take care of his family. I see his family requires a lot of attention for sure.
Just a question!! Is it better if both works or is it better only if one works. Just wondering!!
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by nalini menon on Apr 26, 2008 04:42 PM Permalink
One of the spouses should work and earn money to maintain both. The other person should look after the home front and the chores so that the career-spouse can concentrate on the job and do well.If both people go out and work, the house and the children get neglected.
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by lamiv on Apr 26, 2008 06:19 PM Permalink
Thank god that u were a gud wife to ur husband and in many cases money evaluates the relationship of husband and wife in long term. as long as there is need and age to love,this is possible. But after 40s both girls and boys take a twist and cant judge what kind it will be. So being u a gud wife, ur huby must be happy but take care of the future. Becoz i beleive a ideal mind is more worst than a poison. Everyone goes to job not only for money,also to interact with the society.
There are modes of working Part TIme and Flexi-time and yet earn a fair amount. My wife along with some other housewives are doing the same. People with Diverse backgrounds are into it.
There are some couples also into such WORK FLEXI-TIME opportunities. They are legal and are growing by leaps and bounds in INDIA.
You can inquire from me on this E-Mail address if you are serious...parasgandhi72@rediffmail.com
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by bigboss on Apr 22, 2008 08:19 AM Permalink
i too dont have a job right now and m single will any girl marry me m ready to b a stay home husband looking after all domestic work
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by nalini menon on Apr 25, 2008 09:04 PM Permalink
Hi, If you are serious,I shall introduce to you a creer-girl friend of mine who is interested in a house-husband.
