The turning point of life is the event called 'marriage' and people may agree with me that life starts after marriage. Best friend is always there besides us and is also a part of life. I would keep both separate.. 'my best buddy' and my 'life partner'. Though even if i wud merge both together and marry my best buddy... i get the person of my liking but as yu know there is a different role to play as a husband and a wife. If both are suitable and comfortable with eachother than there seems to be no problem in any situation...! I keep best friend as a "part of life" and my beloved wife as a "life partner". So even, if my part of life tends to be my life partner or remains as a part of life there is no issue with healthy relationship.
Definetly yes,Inspite of different languages & Caste, I married my friend to whom I know for 03 years and we decided to marry. Since after marriage we are good friend and good life partner,we are on 7th year of our marriage anniversary and we are confident that marrying a best friend is a good idea"
RE:We both want to.. but caste is a problem..
by Mak C on Apr 16, 2008 12:20 PM Permalink
Much would depend on how determined both of you are and how much you both have analysed life together as the best option. One can never be rigid about how marrying a best friend would turn out. As far as the parents are concerned, they have nutured and sacrificed much in bringing up a child. Your friend would have these realisations and would naturally be averse to breaking up the bonds that develops in a healthy upbringing. You would need to be very sensitive, patient, understanding, yet determined. The worst thing for you would be to place rigid conditions and ask her to select. It would be cruel to her and might end up in ruining your relationships. Its much easier to shut out a society which interferes in your choices, with parents , the level of difficulty gets raised. If you are confident of your self being best suited for her then a short term measure before anything else would be a determined effort on your part to begin inter-acting with her parents, in the beginning accepting that you will be strongly discouraged by her parents. Parents create their own notions about what is best for their children to sometimes ridiculous levels. But it is the underlying love and protectionism which is the guiding force. If caste is the only factor, then try fitting into the rest of their notions and you may in all probabilities succeed. Breaking away is very easy - building, maintaining and adding to a relationship very difficult. Take on the challenge and wish you all the best!
RE:We both want to.. but caste is a problem..
by krishna tripathi on Apr 16, 2008 03:57 PM Permalink
parents come first. nobody can care for u as your parents..be it frend, g/f, wife or abybody...
RE:We both want to.. but caste is a problem..
by indiaaus on Apr 16, 2008 12:25 PM Permalink
R u Mad Mak.....Scorpio Just forget her....bcos parents are much important than a freind....in life....
RE:We both want to.. but caste is a problem..
by Mak C on Apr 16, 2008 12:35 PM Permalink
Yes and I guess they will live forever to maintain the importance. Hey get real pal!
What i want to say is they both should be prepaired to get into such a relationship which they have to continue as life partners till they last. Its not college that after finishing 3 years we try to catch up & try to meet our friends. But its breath that you have to take every second to be alive.
RE:Is marrying your best friend a good idea?
by nani on Apr 16, 2008 11:48 AM Permalink
could you be a bit clear about "prepaired" is it pre-'paired'(should be in a relationship before hooking up with your best friend),or prepared.
Usually if friendship blossoms between two persons of opposite sex they share all the emotions of life for some time and they know the SWOT of a person that is the persons Strenghts, weaknesses, etc and there is trust, love, sharing all the feelings and a friend is always there through thick & thin and such a bonding if leads to Marriage there is lot of fun, understanding in marriage, I married my best friend i always feel iam the most luckiest girl on this earth my friend gives the best to me always.
RE:Marrying your Best Friend.
by Jagdish Kamath on Apr 16, 2008 11:51 AM Permalink
dear both of you ! keep it up till the last breath !! I know this is from your bottom of heart the words are described. Let this be in GOLDEN letters. God Bless both of YOU !!!!!.
RE:Marrying your Best Friend.
by Machado Amiel on Apr 16, 2008 11:57 AM Permalink
Thats Great, Carry on Sharing your Success, Its Good to hear, God Bless You Both,
RE:RE:Marrying your Best Friend.
by shraddha mudgal on Apr 16, 2008 12:09 PM Permalink
i agree with you suhasini... even i married my best PAL,,,, and the decision is not regretful. there is unsaid understanding between us. we have not let our friendship die
it has been a wonderful experience of having your best friend as ur life partner
Its a good idea. Particularly if you think your best friend can tolerate you well. The best friend also knows your weaknesses and if he or she tolerates your negative points then its the best idea.
RE:Is marrying your best friend a good idea?
by Akbar Ali on Apr 16, 2008 12:18 PM Permalink
You can only enjoy the company of someone if he/she understands and adjusts accordingly.Only a friend can do that 100%.So marrying ur friend wud be the nicest thing to happen.
If not, you make ur wife as friend.But that happens rarely.
I think the best part of ur life will happen to you when you marry the best friend whom you know about everything.In this kind of marriages there will be 0%ego and 100% true love,you can always rely on him/her,you know all her likes and dislikes,your relationship will bloom like Roses and most of all we understand each other feelings and respect their thoughts and emotions.These kind of marriages will result in equality in Societies and in Conclusion it will bring more happiness and cheers in life.
I have been married to my best friend whom I know for years before getting married.our life is absolutely fantastic and enjoufull,we love to share all the things happened on the particular day,we discuss lot of issues regarding our career since we both belong to same background.There is a lot of comfort when we discuss any kind of issues. Totally Its a happy life and I feel really gifted for having such a fantastic partner in life.
RE:Is marrying your best friend a good idea?
by Mohan Kumar on Apr 19, 2008 01:36 PM Permalink
The day one gets married all his best friends leave him !!!!!!!!!!!! It is ok to get married to your best friend. The success of marriage depends on economic freedom, high level of committment for the cause of marriage,developing a companionship within the frame work of marriage, deep trust in the partner are some of the essentials for a "HAPPY" marriage. So long these exist marriage is bound to be a success.
to be frank Marrying a bestfriend is something disgusting... "I know you as a friend, then you became a best friend, now shall i marry you..." this is one of the most disgusting words in the world...
marraige will come like a relationship, where u deserve something, where u depend something... but in frendship u r free for everything...
if u r marryin a friend then u r missing a friend...
RE:U miss a best friend
by neeti mehta on Apr 16, 2008 03:50 PM Permalink
you both seems to be out of the world of realilty,,so better not to comment and spoil the pond of love and relationship..
