I had a good friend for more than one year, we understood each other very well. She proposed me about her love and I accepted it and also I loved her very much. We decided to marry, We did and now we are having one cute son and still we are happy since 2000 year.
RE:Best Idea
by Alok Hom on Apr 19, 2008 01:02 PM Permalink
it might have worked as they respected the meaning of being married and perhaps have a trust-cum-love that is the fundamental component of marriage. Congrats to all those who live like this ...
Im having a friend and she is my only friend.To her also im the only friend.We like each other very much.Some of my friends think that we r lovers but we donot have that feeling.Now her parents are looking to marry her. After she get married to some one, is our realtionship continue? is it good to talk to her after her marriage?we want each other till end.We are loving each other?I donot no what will happen. But I want her till my last sec and she wants me till her Last sec.what we have to do?
RE:im in a confusion stage,can any 1 clear me?
by Elamaran Ravi on Apr 18, 2008 09:33 AM Permalink
hi cool!! same thing wiped me once when I was out of college. Prepared urself finacially, physically and get married to a good job first and inform them directly to get yr beloved one. you ll get it, I got in the same way,
RE:im in a confusion stage,can any 1 clear me?
by Flying Kicks on Apr 19, 2008 12:18 PM Permalink
Im think u and best frand are in raelshunship now to not marry each other sontinue as before and marry other all people no bitter only sweet thing to two you marry no best frand find other frand an marry other frand.....Last sec you want, take last sec but leave bast frand. Now what you have to do, my frand.
No No Friend indeed and in need of a friend only...one should not try to convert friendships to marriage. Both are distant relations if you think deeply. I believe marriage life is always and afterall a new life among us whether she or he.. there are lot of expections,compromise,understanding... There may be cases of success but the ratio will too small. So am a person married 43 years old suggests marrying your best friend not seems to be a good idea... bye to all readers..
RE:Is marrying your best friend a good idea?
by Vinu V Das on Apr 19, 2008 12:24 PM Permalink
In my opinion best friend can be converted into spouse only if the relationship is kept in a balanced manned..... that is... spouse have entirely different relationship and responsibilities.... this need to be understand and keep it separate.... otherwise it will be flop
I have never been in this kind of situation. But I totally disagree with those who think that marrying someone who was his/her best friend is a good idea. To be frank enough, marrying someone whom you know for so long itself is a bad idea because as soon as those people enter into a relationship called "Marriage", they get bored very soon. you hangout with someone, have fun, spend some quality time with him/her, then finally one day it is very sure that they both start discussing about their future with each other.
Do agree that marrying your best friend, you loose a friend for life. In friendship there is never a comparison, compromise, expectations, but as soon as there is a life long commmitment added, things tend to change. Many people would have gone through this and even in the best of love marriages......... expectations are still there and the risk of compromise is the biggest of them all.
RE:Is marrying your best friend a good idea?
by krishna tripathi on Apr 16, 2008 04:02 PM Permalink
your thoughts are not that inspiring but your english seems to be ok. what is meant by "risk of compromise"? further, i am a firm believer that parents' choice is, most of the time, good. don't go for love marriages just for the sake of love marriage...
RE:Is marrying your best friend a good idea?
by mash on Apr 16, 2008 03:55 PM Permalink
After marriage it often happens that the friendship breaks especially between the opposite sexes. Even if u do try to maintain it to some extent even then it wont be so strong that u will share your secrets as you did. U lose touch of people. So I believe better to marry that perosn and have him. The advantage is you know him,(atleast a part of him, his views)
I have been married to my friend although not a best friend but a friend. And this is the wisest decision from my side. I am a very difficult to understand person, however hard i try i cannot control my anger. Only for that moment. He knows all my habbits and all my moves. I dont think anyone else would have fitted a husbands part so perfectly. Being a friend before marriage he knew all my weaknesses too & till now I hve found none in him. Its been 4 years of marriage. And we love each other to the hilt
RE:My life
by Tara on Apr 16, 2008 06:11 PM Permalink
bhai teri wali ko koi aisa bole to chalega? yar agar koi apne exp share kar rha hai to dhang se to bol lo..
hi to all, First thing i have to clarify all our rediff viewers,that friend is a person who is ready for help.If you are getting help by your friends (not from your side),in emergency,needy cases, then he is a very good friend. If you marry with that good friend you will be unlucky.Because after marriage there will be some misunderstanings will rise(with out notice you),this is very common in our human culture. Let me clear you how the misunderstand will rise,after marriage there will be some room for secret,which it will be made pain or hurt your hubby(friend). Some times u can't open u r mouth while having sex,this is more important in your life. So,my advice is please dont make friend life in to married life. After marriage you can make your hubby as good friend.So be happy in rest of your life
