I do not know whether to laugh or cry on this silly question. In fact,marrying your best friend save you all the bothefation you have to face for cultivating the stranger by your side. With a friend you already know his/her plus/minus points and that you have continued to be friends with him/her despite all that eases your post marital burden of tension fearing at every step whether the next step would land you in a pit.If it is pit you are sure he/she will also go along with you or pull you /him/her out.It is always better to have a devil you know than a stranger.
RE:Marryhing your best friend
by Mysorean on Apr 21, 2008 08:07 AM Permalink
I could not agree more with Radhikamruta on this issue. Marrying your best friend is the best thing that can happen to a person. If the so called best friends get married and seperate after some time then, they were simply NOT best friend.One needs to make lots of adjusments and concessions between best friends. In a sucessful marriage too one needs to do the same.This is the one and only one, best kept screet of a sucessful marriage!! Those who adjust and give adequate space to the spouse, are the happiest people in the world
RE:RE:Marryhing your best friend
by Vinu V Das on Apr 21, 2008 09:21 AM Permalink
I Strongly agree.... if two get divorced after their friendship and marriage, they were ever NOT been best friends..... they were pretending that they are best friends..... same as married life.... friendship also need lots of adjustments and understandings......
Marrying a close friend may end up as better marriage than marrying a complete stranger. As friends, you know each other better as after marriage it is expected that husband and wife treat each other on equal terms just like friends. Importantly a marriage between friends could be even better than purely Love at First Sight Marriages, they happen primarily of lovelust for each other in which incompatibilities between two people may be looked over and the later regretted by them. Love is nothing but Chemistry you feel with a person, Marriage is Chemistry Friendship with your partner.
I think there is nothing wrong in marrying your best friend because then you always have somebody around who knows you very well especially your likes & dislikes.But like any other marriage there should be understanding between the two. I strongly belive that if you get married to your best friend then its like icing on the cake.
well, like every imp decision point in life, its sounds like a easy way out. but its just a easy way out. there is a essential and fundamental difference between a lover and a friend. and marry only for love not for convenience. its a compromise and it can persist or dont thats not really important.
Well according to me its an idea which has its shares of pro and cons just like everything in life.But i have often seen such relations don't work out more often than not.. There are many reasons why the idea is doomed. Firstly in a friend you tend to expect a lot ,even more than a lover beacuse she is the confidante of your life.She knows you inside out and at times that knowing each other so well leads to irritation.couples discover that they have nothing left to discover in each other and life starts becoming boring.After marriage we tend to set some preconceived notions into practice which can't be actually followed because we are friends.After marrying a close friend either the friendship has to die or the marriage has to end.There are no options available for both to co-exist simultaneously
well i just think that ur boyfriend cannot be ur best friend or visa versa!!as friendship is totally different than ur love!!! !i dont the ecaxt reason but this is what i believe!!
RE:friendship n marriage!
by manoj gupta on Apr 21, 2008 02:30 AM Permalink
I believe boyfriend terms necessarily means that he first has to be ur frnd then any other realtion and thats how the term'boyfriend' is derived.Once somebody becomes ur bf then definelty u can try to make him as ur best frnd and I think once u have a boyfriend then definely u cannot have any other guy as best frnd more than him. What say??
RE:friendship n marriage!
by laxman gumaste on Apr 21, 2008 09:27 AM Permalink
Absolutely nothing wrong in marrying best friend. However in a group of best friends if one couple is formed then others will be in some confusion or there is threat for friendship.
RE:friendship n marriage!
by ALEX on Apr 20, 2008 11:22 PM Permalink
Marriage has nothing to do with such names like friendship.Marry someone to whom you love by soul.thats it
As the saying goes " Ek Ladka aur Ladki ke Beech Dosti Naheen HOsakti" ....Previously i used to take this one as filmy dailogue. but now when i have decided to get married. i strarted thinking how i want my life partner to be the 10 qualifications that i was choosing my better half to have were already present in my best friend.( a Girl) then i realised that friendship, love, whatever name u give to a relationship the root for this relationship lies in the heart( inner self)so now after giving a serious thought i think its better to marry my old pal rather than a new person...atleast i dont have to or she dont have to worry how our life partners would be..as someone already said coparisions are bound to arise if we marry some other...so i have decided to discuss this with my parents when i come down to india and later will discuss with her and her parents. i am sure our parents would be happy since they know us... Over all marrying a person whom we know better would be the best thing rathe than marrying someone we really dont know...after all a good life partner is what everyone needs........... GOD BLESS ALL THE BEST FRIENDS....
Just to pour in some first hand experience, I recently married my best friend whom i've known for almost 7 yrs now. Its so much fun being in a relationship which started as pure friendship! As we've always been together as friends, it was a roller coster ride for us to dvelve into our emotional dependencies, But once we discovered that both of us have secretly passed on that thing called love into each other's lives, it was an obvious & most comfortable choice to get married!!
So, the point being- If u know what u r into & enjoy being there, why not go deeper!!!!!
