Parents spank their kids because they love them and want to correct their kids behaviour, parents never beat their kids with hatred. this is one and extreme method used to put them in correct path, let them know the difference between their good and bad behaviour. Ofcourse sometimes they do it in frustration, which is to be avoided by controlling their emotions and furiousity.
If the discipling the child by parents is an offence, then what we will call our police action of peacefull protestors in the name of Law. They beat the people on streets to maintain Law & order (Descipline), why our courts are silent on that.
RE:Discipling child
by Ajay Sharma on Jun 25, 2007 05:02 PM Permalink
(1) The police do not beat children, they beat crowds of adults & use force only when there is a threat of an attack.
(2) Even if in some cases, the cops act in a wrong manner & hit children or old people or women or anyone else without any reason, then , its wrong. However there is no need to link a debate regd behaviour & treatment between kids & parents with that of police & public.
RE:Discipling child
by Ramesh Babu on Jun 25, 2007 06:40 PM Permalink
You are right. Both parents and police should be punished if they resort to voilence!!!
We often mistakenly refer to ourselves as human beings. We have no qualms about beating women and children. Man, to a large extent, has remained an animal, and his animal aggression comes out every time he's angry. Children, by virtue of being small, weak and defenceless, are excellent 'soft' targets. Moreover, they 'belong'to their parents, who have given birth to them. So it follows that when angry with the child's mischief or indiscipline, setting aside all other means of communications and negotiations, we turn to the animal within us, and thrash the poor child, verbally and physically, with out hands, sticks and with belts. Our children cannot hit back, both because they are weak, and out of a sense of respect. So they bear the thrashings silently.
But what the child is learning all the time is that it is ok and correct to use violence, to solve any problem. He reasons that if my parent can use violence, then it cannot be wrong. The child learns to be violent from the parent, for the parent is the first teacher to the child. Also, every child harbours a deep injury and resentment against his parent, for having abused him. This, in turn, affects his future relationships in the world, with his friends, spouse and children. A child who is abused either turns extremenly violent himself, or goes to the other extreme, and becomes reserved or lenient. It's a shame that the Govt needs to pass laws to remind us that we're humans, and to rein in our animal instincts.
Some times its necessary to thresh child. Love always do not solve/ discipline child. No parent likes to beat child. Very rare its very voilent. No need of law to punish.
This is good news. For all the fathers who are violent in nature they better be careful. This should be aired on TV so that all these violent fathers will get to know about it.
RE:Spanking the child
by Samir Naik on Jun 25, 2007 04:38 PM Permalink
are always the father to be blamed? There have been incidences where the mother have beaten the child too. lets balance this issue.
The people who are thinking of enforcing such rules against physical punishment probably do not have kids or probably have been spoilt by their parents by no being spanked. I definately believe that a little spanking will do good to a child however there is a fine line between using spanking as a method of correction and abuse and it will be impossible the demarcate. If we follow the footsteps of the west by preventing spanking of children we will also reap the same rewards that the west is reaping in terms of children disobeying, substace abuse and violent crimes in schools as there eill me no fear and in the long term this will harm society and the countrt
RE:are we trying to ape the west if so we shall reap the same rewards that they are today
by Ajay Sharma on Jun 25, 2007 04:58 PM Permalink
I agree. We should drop our kids in boiling oil until they realise that they should listen to us. Do you agree ? Come on guys , have you seen western kids in a public place, they are so well behaved. Not like our rotten indian kids, crying, howling & peeing all the time.
RE:are we trying to ape the west if so we shall reap the same rewards that they are today
by Ramesh Babu on Jun 25, 2007 06:33 PM Permalink
It is wrong notion that the kids in west are disobeying and criminals. They respect their parents as we do and there are some aberrations just like we have. Western attitude towards their children is much better than we treat our children. It is just self-deception that we are better than them. Please look at their sense of responsibility towards their society, neighbors and nation. And spanking a child shows that the parents are out-of-communication with the kid and they use shortcuts to keep the child as they wanted. The attitude of the most of Indian parents should change and they should realize that they can't enforce something forcibly.
RE:are we trying to ape the west if so we shall reap the same rewards that they are today
by manoj jain on Jun 25, 2007 07:43 PM Permalink
Well said. I agree.
If authourities or idiots who intend to make laws could understand the basics of disciplining and abuse, then I guess it's fine.
Parents who don't discipline the child now later would find them disciplined by the cops when they are older. Even then the parents would try to save the child. Does Aliester Periera name ring a bell
