I remember my Uncle use to beat my cousin so much to get her disciplined and to study .But consequences was that she lost full interest in studies and she has become ignorant to everyone..nothing effects her ,,she lives her life the way she want. This is a live example..Beating never helps. I feel that my daughter is more receptive towards the fact that I will punish her by not getting her what she want or by not taking her outside and so she take cares of the facts though she is just 2 and a half years now..She feel proud when i call her Good girl and mend whatever wrong she has done when i call her "gandu baccha" Beating never helps ,...I feel parents just drain down their irritation by doing so and nothing good happens to the kid.. Its just that by hitting them we are creating more and more gap between them.
I do not think we require a law against corporal punishment to children by parents. Abuse by parents cannot be corrected by punishment, but by counselling them. Otherwise also, children now a days are overpampered, which also hampers the balanced growth of children. The Ministry of child welfare should hold special classes for parents in all villages and urban localities to educate the parents to ensure proper growth of children.
It is a late but welcome step by ministry of women and child welfare to bring a strict law for child beatings. However, who will guarantee of it's implementation ? There are already laws to prohibit corporal punishments to school children but of no use since still it is very rampant in all schools. Children are silent sufferers from the hands of theie care takers and teachers as they don't know whom to complaint and they also fear to get more beatings if they complain since they have to stay ultimately with the same caretakers. I think besides law, govt.must spread an public awareness via T.V.,Newspapers etc. not to humiliate their kids and leave the beatings. Increasing street children are the result of the harsh punishments given to children by their caretakers. Parents and teachers should be counciled how to manage their anger. It is very unfortunate that govt has to make such laws. People should understand themselves the implications of the harsh tratement given to kids which is not good for their own kids development.
1. Who is the govt to tell us what to do with our kids. If we dont spank them now, then they will spank the society later.
2. We have been spanked very much by our parents. so whay should we dont get the opportunity to spank our kids. This has been the indian tradition since ages ( right from Ramayana & Mahabharata days) & hence no one can stop us.
3. One slap a day keeps the bad habits away. So whenever you get a chance, slap ur kid. Even slap him when he dont make a mistake. This will always keep him in check...
RE:RE:Kids are born to be spanked
by santosh kulkarni on Jun 26, 2007 01:01 PM Permalink
totally disagree with you. Its your failure if you have to slap your child. You are releasing anger on your kids and you should feel ashamed of yourself.Your words should work in disciplining your kids and not your hands.You should learn how to raise your kids without beatings and take some parenting classess.
Occasional slap from the parents when the child is unmanageable is fine as long as it is followed by conciliatory remarks. The child knows that its behaviour has crossed limits of patience. I do not think parents chase their children with hot steel rods or sharp articles to terrorize them. If done in private and in a non-humiliating way, such punishments are acceptable.
Life does not come with a users manual and therefore we have parents. To inculcate discipline and manners in the child sometimes the stern action of corporal punsihment is to be resorted to. We should not blindly ape some study in some western country. Anyway the type of parenting being given in the west is evident in the number of juvenile crimes taking place in these so called learned socities.
RE:Users Manual
by RIDDHI MANIAR on Jun 26, 2007 11:31 AM Permalink
Nothing teaches a child better than love and understanding. No child deserves to be hurt. Parents who attempt to discipline their children by using harsh methods are the ones who need discipline and are dissatisfied with their own lives. I think the court is justified in passing this order.
RE:Users Manual
by sharib razi on Jun 26, 2007 12:37 PM Permalink
Yes the court is fully justified so that tomorrow the same court can discipline the child and then pass judgements on the type of upbringing given to the child.
I just now saw some questions related to the subject. IT REALLY PAINS ME LIKE ANYTHING imagining beating children for any reason whatsoever! What kind of parents they are who beat their children????? Children are your future! I consider my son as my soul!!!! Whatever I am going to earn for my lifetime, he is going to be the ultimate beneficiary! Whatever I am doing, it is for him! He is my future! He is my new birth! He is my reincarnation! Will I beat MYSELF? No way!!!
RE:Regardubg parents beating children
by abdul on Jun 26, 2007 12:50 PM Permalink
hello shirish, how old are you?and how old is your child...you sound interesting
RE:Regardubg parents beating children
by anil on Jul 07, 2007 04:06 PM Permalink
he doenst have a child it seems sometimes stight beating is indeed needed
RE:Regardubg parents beating children
by josephsudhakar Daniel RatnaKumar on Jun 26, 2007 11:27 AM Permalink
u should not beat mr shri , he will beat u one day , ur soul , no stupid parent beats simply , if u want to get hit by ur soul one day , dont hit him if he does mistakes also , FEAR IS THE BEGINNING OF KNOWLEDGE , if u want ur soul to be loafer , murderer , adulterer , and all sorts of wrongs , dont hit him , he will hit u , if u dont hit , u need not earn for him , he will pluck ur earnings from u , be a good parent and all good parents dicipline there children , and in utmost cases stick and rod should be used or else his soul will go to hell , any way u will go to hell if u dont do that.
RE:Regardubg parents beating children
by on Apr 05, 2008 11:29 PM Permalink
my name is makendhiran from anderson school daniel ratnakumar is my class mate by any chance are from anderson? my email is theking64@gmail.com thanks
RE:Regardubg parents beating children
by santosh kulkarni on Jun 26, 2007 12:04 PM Permalink
I totally disagree with you Joseph daniel. I think you have not considered yourself in your own child's shoes when you beat them. Just consider this and then beat them and tell how you feel about it. Your relationship with kids should be such that there should not be any need of beating. Your scoldings should be enough for disciplining them.Beating will take your kids away from you and they will never bother you when they will grow up. This is the reason why today senior citizons have to go to Ashrams. If you have good relationship with your kids they will treat you well in your old age . This is TIT for TAT situation. You will get the same treatment from your kids which you give to them. I think there must be a strict laws and its implementation too who beat children.Beating animals is cruelty then why not for children ? They are also human beings. They mustbe treated as human beings and they too have their own personality which hampers if you adopt for beatings and humiliation. Children will skip off many things from parents if they are not open with them.I congratulate Renuka Chaudhary for proposing such laws.
It is very important for the children to obey to their parents.Parents only know what is right and what is wrong.It is there fore nessecary for the parent to beat and make the child understand the right thng.
that is way indian children are more responsible than western children
RE:HITTING makes the KID grow Responsilly
by santosh kulkarni on Jun 26, 2007 12:54 PM Permalink
Dear Radhakrishnan, Your statement is not correct. In western culture, majority of children don't have respect to their parents because they dont have nay emotional bonds with them. They too adopt beatings to their kids frequently even there are strict laws.In India, we have practice of beating children from very old times and hence we can not think out of this structure.Now the world has been changed and we must adopt changes in our systems / thinking also.Today's kids are very sensitive and if parents adopt beating as punishments, mentally they will go away from them and if any mistakes done they will try to hide it from parents in fear of punishments. This is very harmful situation in their development. Many kids run away from their homes due to this fear.Have you heard of one tenis player died due to beatings by his father in Kolkata ? This is a rare case but beatings hurt kids a lot which parents must think about it.If parents want their kids to lie or hide things from them, let them continue beating. I feel today's generation don't need beatings. Your words are enough to discipline them.
RE:HITTING makes the KID grow Responsilly
by anil on Jul 07, 2007 04:07 PM Permalink
here we are not talking of extreme case Mr santosh the topic is about a general upbringing of a child
dear friends before giving funda, tell me "do u have a kid?" and that too a nasty one. now a days parents dont hurt kids, rather kids make the parents cry. I wish all of u who are giving funda here are blessed with a really nasty kid. there is lot of difference between abusing and punishing. Parents can not go to court to get there kids punished for his/her wrong doings. they have to do it then and there. if rewards can be there, then punishment has also to be there. otherwise y do v have courts. all wrong doers should also be treated with love and never punished. in toto, its up to parents to punish the kid when they feel they need to but they should also be made aware that abusing the kid is criminal act.
