I BELIEVE IN TODAYS WORLD SPECIALLY IN INDIA THINGS NEED TO CHANGE.WE DO UNDERSTAND THAT WE HAVE A RICH CULTURE BUT PLEASE SEE WHAT TRANSFORMATION WE ARE GOING THROUGH.LIVE IN IS NO WRONG SEEING THE PRESENT DAY SCENARIO. PEOPLE WILL SAY ABOUT PRE MARITAL RELATIONSHIP BUT WHEN PRE MARITAL IS AT RANDOM HAPENING EVERYWHERE SO WHAT DIFFERNCE IT MAKES. AT LEAST YOU FEEL THE RESPOSIBILITY IN LIVE IN BUT NOT BOUND TO RESPONSIBILITY OR RATHER COMPROMISING WITH MARRIAGE. ONCE COMFORTABLE GO FOR THE MARRIAGE WIT YOUR LIVE IN PARTNER
Be it arrange or love marriage or live-in relationship important is to have love and commitment for other person. It can be easy to find a partner when you are young,full of energy,earning good amount of money but in your old ages you need someone to talk and share your emotions.At that time your partner who has taken an oath keeping the god in centre and had tied a knot with you for lifetime will be there with you forever.Marriage is not a central jail where two person of opposite sex are handcuffs. Marriage is above all this where one finds divinity in there relation either of them are always ready to sacrifice for happiness of the other.Conversion of joint family to nuclear family is the main problem why new couple faces many problem and when they are tired of everything they split.Joint family is the perfect way to leave happily for the reason you easily find people around you to share your emotions and can sortout any problem with mutual understanding. When only two of them staying together get fed up with each other they try to find someone outside to low down the weight of there heart and they start moving far from each other b'coz they find the new person more interesting but the joint family is so strong that they won't allow any outsiders to enter in there family matters. I duly respect our old tradition of getting married but in the every stages of your marriage you need your parents who are great example of a happy married couple undoubtedly they fought with e
Its not the matter to influence our culture. Kindly make any comment by keeping in your mind that we have to make cultured India because we are Indians believe in healthy relations made by God.
the trouble with any alternate lifestyle is that it is never broadly accepted in our society,simply becos our society is so diverse. I am sure that live in relationships are common in the more affluent sections.This will always be met with sceptisicism outhside their circle...so it places an unnecessary burden on the couple..also many women are earning quite well and hence do not feel the need to settle down early....but would still yearn for physical companionship. Ditto with men...the one marriage one partner stereotype is endlessly potrayed as the ideal...no doubt it may be the ideal scenario...but as we all know life is far from ideal!
I am totally against the concept of Live-In Relationships. The sancity of marriage is lost and the whole thing has no means if Live-In relationship is motivated.
What makes our country stand apart from others is the bonds we have with our family and this would be completely lost if we go for Live-In. Marriage is ideally a commitment not to be marred with age. The word commitment weakens in the case of Live-ins as there is nothing to tighten the bonds. It is just like two people sharing an accomodation instead of going in for a hostel or mansion.
Leave out the person only if you are 100% sure the commitment of marriage will not work out but never live in with someone to whom there is no bond of commitment.
We have a different culture that all of us have know. Live in relationships leads pre-marital sexual relationships and it cause many severe problems. Keepin live relationhsips after marriage is a custom of our country. See love marriage also leads to divorce in many cases. Love after marriage is a good practice.
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by Chithra SV on Jul 27, 2007 04:40 PM Permalink
Rubbish argument! Please cut the culture crap. I'm a proud Indian and I've seen enough places and people to form my opinion. Just marriage doesn't solve all the domestic problems. Marriage should not be a contract so that 2 people are forced to live under one roof, even if they cannot accommodate the other. A lot of marriages in India are like this. And because of this, people just drag on and in most cases, the most suffered lot is their children. I don't mind a live-in relationship, if both parties are happy with it. And one more thing is that in most problematic marriages, women are the losers. And our so called Great culture doesn't support them. I agree that we have a lot of written things for the protection of women and almost nil in practice. So, if a women becomes bold enough to choose a partner to live with, society doesn't accept it. And some people just blame western society! I've stayed 2-3 years outside India, especially in Europe and people who blame the west, have never seen west! If you see the respect for elders and women and the safety a woman experiences here, it's atleast 90% more then what our great culture offers! Saying that "It is not our culture" is foolishness!!!
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by Dheeraj on Jul 27, 2007 04:19 PM Permalink
well .. foolish arguments ... i guess each person should their life the way they want to... who cares what other think
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by Dhanamjaya S on Jul 27, 2007 04:28 PM Permalink
Well our parents were married, we had the advantage society gives respect to a family. Live-in relationship is a fancy name for free sex.
So-and-so is the son or daughter of so-and-so.. similary he is the father of our friend..the list of family generated help goes on... Once we become a part of a family, the society respects as a combined individual.
Live-in may be popular just for ads. Ultimately family wins....
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by shweta singh on Jul 27, 2007 04:37 PM Permalink
what culture u r talking about? here people can do anything read sex before marriage without living in. so if two people have decided that they way to stay together without marrying then whats wrong with it.anyways marriage is more of understanding than anything else. so in many cases(arranged mostly) where spouses step out of their relation to find satisfaction/love outside. so why not two people stay together and be happy However i do not support live in relations after marriage If it has to be it then both partners should ideally be unmarried. If you have got married then either stick to your marriage or step out the legal way. so for divoece not to happen you should ensure that you know spouse very well And live in relation is one way of doing so It is although a new trend in India and our parents might not accept this fact but the FACT is that it is here to stay and the sooner people realise it the better it is for them. Get out of the shell guys The world is beautiful so lets enjoy each and every moment of it......
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by anil on Jul 28, 2007 06:21 PM Permalink
ms sweta it seem u want only enjoyment but no commitment either from ur spouse or u r not ready to commit urself to your spouse or sacrifice
