there is no harm in living together in this century ,the girls should be smart enough where to draw the line and get married only if you think you have got a real sincere loving partner.otherwise be bold enough to enjoy your life as you please.good luck!
Re: live-in relationship
by nandini on Apr 23, 2010 01:27 AM Permalink
i agree with u dear..its now in this generation that girls have started understanding their rights and have started coming up with it openly. Earlier even if females were exploited they couldnt stand up to it because of financial dependence. Moreover , earlier it was a taboo for a girl to divorce and come back to her parents house after marraige now a days though slowly parents and society has also started accepting divorced girls. Marraige is not the whole soul purpose of anyones life so if one is not happy in it they can walk out of it.. Slowly i think boys also have started accepted this fact and are becoming more open minded..
Couples living in a live-in relationship do not have a binding (legal or as married couples) on each other.
Lets take a case where such a couple decides on having a baby, everything goes well and they have a helthy baby. But gradually as the realtionship progresses, the initial excitement starts to wither and responsibilities start to rise - i.e. baby care, additional expenses etc.
The relationship goes from bad to worse and the couple decides to part ways. Since they didn't have a formal commitment, the man decides he does not want to take care of the child.
The woman is all alone with only herself to take care of the child. She moves to a new flat, looks for jobs but can't find any...
I might continue but the only point I want to make it is that for any relation which is built around co-operation between 2 people, it is in the best interst of both to formalize their commitments.
Businesses do that, people in partnership do that. When "marriage" provides you with the mechanism to do that - embrace it. Not only does it remind and re-enforce your commitments, but also creates a much deeper bond.
*Bring every relationship under marriage so that spouse will feel some responsibility and security, the marriage can be without ceremony even wothout involving law *marriage without love is useless the make divorce easy
Re: Marriage
by nandini on Apr 23, 2010 01:47 AM Permalink
LOve should be the basis of any relation...no matter live in or marraige.....and if 2 people are in genuinely in love and are also in live relation they can eventually get married ...Its their own choice the society doesnt have to do anything with it...the problem in marraiges is that both the partners take to each other for granted and thats where things can start going wrong.. In live in relation both the partners know that the other can walk out of it so they tend to behave in a more responsible way...I'am not against marraiges but both of them need to put in some efforts to make it happy.. A relation cant be pulled on and on by one partner..
RE:Marriage
by dhawal dave on Sep 29, 2007 03:48 PM Permalink
I DO AGREE.IT IS BETTER TO HAVE LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP THAN A USELESS MARRIAGE , AND DRAGGING IT FOR NO REASON
As a man living in this society,I feel that live in society is a boon for man(Mostly for those who love and enjoy the girls and leave them to their fate).I feel that it must have been started by a "Intelligent Man who cheats women and a foolish woman who trusts That guy".What is the gaurentee that he will not leave the women after a month or year or so.It is very easy for him to say that our live in relationship is not going on smoothly so let us get separated.Who will be the looser then.In the same case if they were married there will be fear of society,law, elders.So i say that don't trust all men and it doest mean that all men are bad and all women are good.There are good and bad both in men and women.
'Living in' relationships are to a certian extent of the stupid practices adopted in our institution of marriage. We have progressed from type writers to laptops, coins to smart cards... but Our attitude towards marriage never changed.
Women has graduated as CEO's of MNC's from a home maker. Men do drive a BMW [Images] and wear an Armani, but the wife in their dream still is a saree clad women with bindi in the fore head, may be a burkha, children cinging to her hands etc. He is yet to have this digested that the car that speeds at 140kmph can have a women in the driving seat.
Living-in relation is mostly a decision made by the new generation women. Men were always ready for a "liability free" sex life. But for women, it is a bold step she is taking or a kind of challenge she is making on the male section who still fancy to live on the money of her father, fancy to get a slave at home and bed, fancy to keep a Sati-savitri at home.
Women today understand her more. She know her wants and desires. Men will no longer be able to hide their inability or weakness under the "sanctity" cover of marriage.
Living-in, is a challenge and the bold one do survive. You might see them desperate and broken after few years. But their life is much better than the prisoners of marriage.
I read almost all of them and found the above view one of the best and the most genuine!! My heartiest agreement to him. He is a Genius!!
EXCESS DIVORCE COMPENSATION WILL ERADICATE THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE
Friends, While returning home, in my train, there were Graduate Students from a nearby reputed college discussing the issue of "DIVORCE COMPENSATION (Alimony) TO WOMEN". The day's newspaper said, "Divorced women are entitled to 30% of their former husband's income" this is besides the usual half of the "THE HUSBAND'S GROSS ASSETS, INCLUDING HIS HOUSE".
I was shocked when one boy said, "We need women only to SATISFY OUR STOMACHS AND THE PORTION BELOW OUR STOMACHS (SEX)". This "Wiz-Kid" continued "After office the Man will go to a HOTEL, have DINNER, go to a BROTHEL, sleep with a woman of his CHOICE. This will work out much cheaper than Expenses incurred on a wife"
The lucrative compensation a divorced woman receives will "Entice" many married women to divorce their husbands. She will be entitled compensation until she marries again. This means, EVEN IF SHE HAS A BOY FRIEND her Alimony Will Continue. Today, many College Girls & Call Center operatives moon light as CALL GIRLS. Even women in their middle age want to be sexy and have relationships outside marriage.
Well, if ALIMONY for divorced women ends up as INJUSTICE AGAINST MEN, then men will prefer PROSTITUTES TO MARRIAGE, as men will have no %u201CINCENTIVE%u201D or %u201Cself-interest%u201D in getting married.
My train mates felt Prostitutes who are clean and honorable should be treated on par
RE:COMFORT WOMEN BETTER THAN WIVES ?
by Venkat Krishnan on Aug 19, 2007 08:58 PM Permalink
Friends, The message (Comfort women.....)I posted got truncated. I (Venkatkrishnan) continue my message....
" My train mates felt Prostitutes who are clean and honorable should be treated on par with SPECIALIST DOCTORS, like GEISHAS of Japan. This will be the DEATH OF THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE.
India may become an economic super power. But with a bad value system as envisioned by my " Gennext" train mates in the above write up, India will be no different from SODOM AND GOMORRAH & shall be subjected to a similar form of punishment at the hands of Almighty. More Tsunamis, EarthQuakes, Heatwaves will visit us.
Friends, please read and respond to me at: venkat_krishnank@rediffmail.com
People live with each other because they don't want to be lonely.People have sex with each other because that is a biological instinct.The ideal way to live is where you regard each other as a friend and are free to have sex with whoever not allowing your ego to get in the way.No one posseses anyone else.
