I cant understand whats wrong with people..... The only reason people can say live-in is not good is the status of women, n how life becomes difficult for them But how can a love less marriage be better?
It always becomes a problem for the woman to lead her life post a live-in break up, as a divorcee is better accepted & respected
If anti-live-in people are saying that live-in lacks TRUST....then why are they so keen to have the trust of the legal document? In a live-in the only thing that keeps the couple together is love & TRUST without any guarantee
Having said that,if men can cheat in marriages, it becomes all the more easier for them, cuz they can escape with the plea that they had not committed in the first place
What holds a relationship is trust, its very difficult to find a man whom u can trust,in case of live-in, & he is actually serious, why doesnt he want marriage?the possible reason being that he still wants to be sure......
This very reason why people go for live-in is questionable.But then,a love filled live-in is way better than loveless marriage.
My point is rights n security of women.What will happen if the guy leaves her?Unfortunately they are never given respect in our society, although lives of men from broken live-in never change.Women dont even get same legal protection.
But then if the guy is serious, then the couple can marry later too...which is most advisable if they have a kid. But theres no reason to say
I cant understand whats wrong with people..... The only reason people can say live-in is not good is the status of women, n how life becomes difficult for them But how can a love less marriage be better?
It always becomes a problem for the woman to lead her life post a live-in break up, as a divorcee is better accepted & respected
If anti-live-in people are saying that live-in lacks TRUST....then why are they so keen to have the trust of the legal document? In a live-in the only thing that keeps the couple together is love & TRUST without any guarantee
Having said that,if men can cheat in marriages, it becomes all the more easier for them, cuz they can escape with the plea that they had not committed in the first place
What holds a relationship is trust, its very difficult to find a man whom u can trust,in case of live-in, & he is actually serious, why doesnt he want marriage?the possible reason being that he still wants to be sure......
This very reason why people go for live-in is questionable.But then,a love filled live-in is way better than loveless marriage.
My point is rights n security of women.What will happen if the guy leaves her?Unfortunately they are never given respect in our society, although lives of men from broken live-in never change.Women dont even get same legal protection.
But then if the guy is serious, then the couple can marry later too...which is most advisable if they have a kid. But theres no reason to say
I cant understand whats wrong with people..... The only reason people can say live-in is not good is the status of women, n how life becomes difficult for them But how can a love less marriage be better?
It always becomes a problem for the woman to lead her life post a live-in break up, as a divorcee is better accepted & respected
If anti-live-in people are saying that live-in lacks TRUST....then why are they so keen to have the trust of the legal document? In a live-in the only thing that keeps the couple together is love & TRUST without any guarantee
Having said that,if men can cheat in marriages, it becomes all the more easier for them, cuz they can escape with the plea that they had not committed in the first place
What holds a relationship is trust, its very difficult to find a man whom u can trust,in case of live-in, & he is actually serious, why doesnt he want marriage?the possible reason being that he still wants to be sure......
This very reason why people go for live-in is questionable.But then,a love filled live-in is way better than loveless marriage.
My point is rights n security of women.What will happen if the guy leaves her?Unfortunately they are never given respect in our society, although lives of men from broken live-in never change.Women dont even get same legal protection.
But then if the guy is serious, then the couple can marry later too...which is most advisable if they have a kid. But theres no reason to say
the only silver line which holds our indians is culture... young generations may misuse it...marriage without love has guarantee but love without marriage will ruin u...
Re: against our culture...
by MM on Feb 16, 2011 10:14 PM Permalink
Oh my god!!!!!
what the hell is wrong with people.....reading this whole thing actually drove me insane.......why can't people accept that people are different & have different point of views!!!
Firstly,I'm not saying live-in is good or bad... But how can people say that marriage without love ATLEAST has GUARANTEE??
Why is this guarantee so important to we , women? Only cuz of the perception of society, cuz these men who can leave their live-in partners can never think of marrying or even respecting a woman from broken- live-in
The whole point is that, it is the woman who is at risk.Thats all
And the fact that society views divorcee women in a better status than that of women from broken live-in
Love is more important in any relationship I completely agree that live-in couple can marry later on....
When pro-marriage (or should I say anti-live-in)people say that live-in is disgusting cuz there is no trust.......then why do they view marriage as better?just cuz there's a legal agreement?maybe they dont trust their partners without a legal document
Again , women cant be blamed as, rights of a live-in woman are not same as that of a divorcee woman...(again, problem of society, that everything is made difficult for women)
And, live-in couple strives only on that love, & TRUST(i kno thats ironical)......without any need for proof
But getting a man like that, whom u can completely trust without a proof is difficult.... as so many women who are ma
Re: against our culture...
by rahul on Oct 12, 2009 01:41 PM Permalink
i think feel gud for sum time but after that there is only frustation n sadness in life .....
Re: against our culture...
by MM on Feb 16, 2011 10:13 PM Permalink
Oh my god!!!!!
what the hell is wrong with people.....reading this whole thing actually drove me insane.......why can't people accept that people are different & have different point of views!!!
Firstly,I'm not saying live-in is good or bad... But how can people say that marriage without love ATLEAST has GUARANTEE??
Why is this guarantee so important to we , women? Only cuz of the perception of society, cuz these men who can leave their live-in partners can never think of marrying or even respecting a woman from broken- live-in
The whole point is that, it is the woman who is at risk.Thats all
And the fact that society views divorcee women in a better status than that of women from broken live-in
Love is more important in any relationship I completely agree that live-in couple can marry later on....
When pro-marriage (or should I say anti-live-in)people say that live-in is disgusting cuz there is no trust.......then why do they view marriage as better?just cuz there's a legal agreement?maybe they dont trust their partners without a legal document
Again , women cant be blamed as, rights of a live-in woman are not same as that of a divorcee woman...(again, problem of society, that everything is made difficult for women)
And, live-in couple strives only on that love, & TRUST(i kno thats ironical)......without any need for proof
But getting a man like that, whom u can completely trust without a proof is difficult.... as so many women who are ma
na never .....live in relationship is spoilling our culture.. we are INDIAN ..and how could one accept this fact ......that this is relationship is legal..they are never legal....they are having negative impact on our young genration...... we are living in a society ...though a good one...and this type of relationship are hampering our culturial value...our ethics...and belief
if u luv sum1 than just marry him /her ....why live in relation.....and after breakup...this will definitely leads to depression.. emotinal weakness... and sense of guiltness
if one luv give a legal name to that relationship.....
THIS REALTIONSHIP IS ANSWER OF INSECURITY
being sensed by people....they dont want responsibility in there life of this reason go for this relationship
the end of which is horrible ,,,one have live example of lara dutta ....
people say "Live-in relationships 'Better than a loveless marriage'
how its better
marrige is of the most luvable relationship shared by two...to luv each other in their happiness and sorrow.... and both take care of each otherin thier ill health ..luv ..support and care each other
which is totally missing in live -in relationship
if married life is loveless..add luv into it.. give time to blossom..and cahnge to take place
marrige does not take way freedom...insted give sum1 who really take care for u and support u.....
so young genration ALL GLITERS ARE NOT GOLD....and live in is fake gliter... marrige is real 24 karte gold :)
Re: Live-in relationships: 'Better than a loveless marriage'
by Sunil Kumar on Jul 28, 2009 04:30 PM Permalink
Think about it: you can test drive a car, so why not test drive a relationship?
Magazines come with 30 day trials, we have return policies for electronics, and free samples for ice cream. So why can't we get the same money back guarantee with our relationships?
Re: Live-in relationships: 'Better than a loveless marriage'
by nandini on Apr 23, 2010 01:38 AM Permalink
Somehow dont agree with u dear sheetal.. what is culture exactly ? Its set up us (humans)only ?? this can be changed ..u may be lucky to have a good and happy marraige but not everyone is. So shouldnt these people have a second chance in their lives ? Not that people should compromise or adjust but for a relation to work out both the partners need to work on it and understand each other... I'm an Indian staying in USA and have seen many westerners also in good and stable marraiges..Every human likes to have a peaceful life and if a marraige is not giving then ending it is a okay option.. Live in relation can be a stepping stone towards a marraige ...That will give time to both of them to understand each other well..
In my view live in relationships should be made legal. In today's modern world relationships have changed drastically from the primitive ghetto society. Now each person must have one's personal space. Instead of life long commitment in marriage it is better to have agreement on live in. If both partners get attached later they have an option to marry. In fact personal sphere should not contadict with family sphere. In that way one can still give commitment to family. So live in should be permitted as part of ones private personal life.
A very large number of marriages are unhappy today. The partners have to seek emotional and physical support outside marriage. This has caused much tesion in the society and has lead to violence. A private legal live in relationship will ease these tensions.
The world around us is gettin weirder by the day as we realise it sooner or later. People make choices of thier own .. culture can be defined in many aspects than just religious belief .. age, gender et cetra are culture aswel. Moral values imbibed will rule the decision. Stickin to monogamy will be my decision but IT DOESNT have to be. I'd like to say Nobody is perfect..
Physical statisfaction is a happy and positive fall out of the live in relationship and do keep in mind that not all live-in relation ships send in physical relations.
I think this is better than a state where both or either partners are unsatisfied and start looking for greener pastures outside the wedlock. I dont know how many marriage can survive without the physical part.
madhavi, i am questioning the integrity of the sancitity of an arranged marrige , all i say is that you should be accomodative of the fact the carnal desires are also a human trait which cannot be subdued for long, so better be in a live relations and build a mutally benificial relatioship and go out a buy what you want for money.
But the basic requirement of a live i relation ship is same as that of any marriage... Madhavi just beacuse you have a lot of good friends do you abstain from marraige ?
And yes its take two brave souls to swim aginst the odds and thats exactly what happens in a live in ...
there is no harm in living together in this century ,the girls should be smart enough where to draw the line and get married only if you think you have got a real sincere loving partner.otherwise be bold enough to enjoy your life as you please.good luck!
Re: live-in relationship
by nandini on Apr 23, 2010 01:27 AM Permalink
i agree with u dear..its now in this generation that girls have started understanding their rights and have started coming up with it openly. Earlier even if females were exploited they couldnt stand up to it because of financial dependence. Moreover , earlier it was a taboo for a girl to divorce and come back to her parents house after marraige now a days though slowly parents and society has also started accepting divorced girls. Marraige is not the whole soul purpose of anyones life so if one is not happy in it they can walk out of it.. Slowly i think boys also have started accepted this fact and are becoming more open minded..
