RE:live in relationship
by sampath mohapatra on Jul 17, 2007 03:49 PM Permalink
Hey mate its time you time you to a prost...e to relive some of your tension. Else it will take 100 years for that. You will go to ur grave a VIRGIN. ha,ha,ha
RE:live in relationship
by kumar ranjan on Jul 23, 2007 06:46 PM Permalink
jo mati(intelligence) se janme wo dharm hai. Boss We are product of sanatan culture which means it is changing with the demand of time. if u r honest to your self and your partner nothing bad in any relation. atleast you are not killing a bride in the name of tradition DOWARY,Girl Child killing or womb killing of a girl child. Jago Bhaiyo kai barre issues aur bhi hai deal karne ke liye. and please dont reply me as it will extend the topic more. Lets come together to do something productive for our country.Enough Gayanbazi.
RE:live in relationship
by Rahul on Jul 17, 2007 03:32 PM Permalink
Alfred, who is going to wait for 100 yrs?? EVen u wait for 100 yrs and u r still alive, would u be able to have a live in relation then?? Listen mate, its all in the mind.. It takes some ppl 1 day to adapt to the present world, some ppl may be more than 100 yrs.. Its all down to u mate!!
To understand a person one does not needs to get into live in relationship or sleep together or stay together. The men who respects women will never get in to live in relationship.
For a better understanding a person needs to communicate over aperiod of time, do self analysis of what is good / bad for him / her and then come to the conclusion.
we r doing everything in the name of culture and civilisation to destroy the sanctity of institute of marriage !! Dont understand why we are taking americans as role models in every aspect of life ! They themselves do not know the good and bad in life...They are just rich at facilities, not at mindset and thoughts.. Why dont we follow our time tested, well established sanathan dharma...what is wrong with it ??? Ofcourse, there are bound to be some drawbacks..we have to overcome the same by inducing new thoughts...
I have read almost all of this crap! Let me clear my position first, I am absolutely in favour of Live-in, though I have some doubts about the inheritence issues, single parenthood issues etc. and I think our legal framework will adopt soon to resolve those. Personally I have been in two such relationships one after another; the first one didn't work, the other did and we're happily married thereafter. I have a teen-age daughter, and if AFTER securing her own career and economic independence she moves in with her boyfriend I would respect her decision. At the same time, I am proudly an Indian, probably far more patriotic than any of these guys who oppose an open relationship. Point is, sociologically it's a taboo only among the typical middleclass. At the bottom of the social pyramid they don't care for marriage, they just move in, and whatever ceremony is there is meant for informing the kinsmen and celebrating the new couple. Take the tribal marriages for example. This is consensual marriage. The fuss remains only where you have to win the bride as a family property and then mark the property with Sindoor, confine her with Kara etc. Try to understand the rituals of what you call Hindu marriage. Well, not only Hindu/Hindi, the christian and muslim marriage also do the same thing. The grooms family acquires a bride for procreating more of the clan, 'putraarthe kriyate bharya', and in my view live-in relationship is more of a consensual marriage than that. Let reality decide.
RE:Live-in, Move in, what's the fuss?
by sukhi on Jul 17, 2007 03:44 PM Permalink
Mr. Partha, ur gr8 man.. ur so open. I like this.. also can you ask ur wife that with how many men she has spent this kind of relationship in her past.. and whats ur number.. man don't just get carried away with the western culture ok... just try to respect the things.. I don't know but why the hell people like u try to currupt whole values that India had.. can u ask this question from ur parents tooo then u will get the right answer.. ok.. also I have a son just gimme ur address in case if he will be interested in living with ur daughter in future then he will think.. may be he might wanna try this..
I think this is what ur trying to tell the whole society...
RE:Live-in, Move in, what's the fuss?
by Parthapratim Chakravorty on Jul 17, 2007 04:42 PM Permalink
Sure sir! My email Id is not going to change and please get in touch after 15 years or so. I hope, just hope, that your son (legitimate one) will be wiser than you. By the way I am not into counting my wife's former men, just like your wife never counted how many times you were caught in the red light area! She never cheated on me, and that's what counts. Problem is when you guys marry, you marry a HYMEN not a woman! Pity you. And by the way, your son will not decide whether to live in with my daughter, my daughter will decide that. However, if you are his father, I see very little hope in this line.
RE:Live-in, Move in, what's the fuss?
by sukhi on Jul 18, 2007 01:44 PM Permalink
hmm.. Mr Parthapratim.. uhave written a nice reply.. but I may tell u that is ur daughter legitimate.. u need to get the checkups done.. coz the artificial people like u who r carried away by western culture and dollars might not know.. about the legitimate children.. so get the things done at ur end and then sent these kind of messages to other people.. coz ur very first message gives a clear picture about ur self and ur mentality.. also I was just joking that my son wud like to stay with ur daughter.. OK ... he will not do this.. coz we are Indian and we know our limitations.. and restrictions and we are not animal.. who starts anything anywhere.... I hope u can understand....
RE:Live-in, Move in, what's the fuss?
by Shantunu Bhaduri on Jul 19, 2007 05:57 PM Permalink
Sukhi Keep it up a fantastic reply indeed just like a tight slap on parthas cheek.... Goood....
RE:Live-in, Move in, what's the fuss?
by sukhi on Jul 22, 2007 03:17 PM Permalink
thanx shantanu.. but u know dear I am just natural and I prefer to be natural not artificial like these people.. who pretends themselves to be modern but from inner they r not.. they pretent that they can do anything to become foreigner and for dollars but u know deaqr these are the people who actually weeps at a point of time in their life when they have only money(dollars) and nothing else..
RE:Live-in, Move in, what's the fuss?
by Rahul on Jul 17, 2007 03:48 PM Permalink
Look at another moron like Sukhi.. cant even have a proper conversation. If somebody talks sense, then they take it personally and then they start talking about women in others house.. Sukhi is one example.. And unfortunately he is also an Indian!!!
RE:Live-in, Move in, what's the fuss?
by sukhi on Jul 17, 2007 03:53 PM Permalink
I think Rahul has also experienced something bad out of this kind of relationship.. nevermind get going.. may u need to try couple of more options in ur life.. yes I am an Indian man.. happy Indian..
RE:Live-in, Move in, what's the fuss?
by sampath mohapatra on Jul 17, 2007 03:56 PM Permalink
Yeah, ur son is just like you. Poking his PRI.. in like a dog. It seems that you are in in a dis satisfied relation ship. Relieve your tension some hwre else sukhi. I will give u some nos. It would be pricey but worth it.
RE:Live-in, Move in, what's the fuss?
by sukhi on Jul 17, 2007 04:02 PM Permalink
It seems like ur dis-satisfied person or may be ur not able to satisfy the other person...I am satisfied man.. and only dis-satisfied person can perform the things like u...nevermind.. i don't need any number.. coz im not dis-satisfied.. and in case if u need.. then do let me know.. or send me a mail then I will give u personally.. no probs at all. man.. and as far as my son is concerned.. he will be far far away from AIDS viruses like u....
RE:Live-in, Move in, what's the fuss?
by sampath mohapatra on Jul 17, 2007 04:11 PM Permalink
Hey Sukhi, you have some nos with you or are you going to give your wife's number. Please clarify.
RE:RE:Live-in, Move in, what's the fuss?
by sukhi on Jul 17, 2007 04:43 PM Permalink
don't look out and try some medicines.. only then u will be able to make fun out of ur wife too.. ok.. it happens with people like u..
dissssssssssss-satisfied people.. I pitty on u man....
RE:Live-in, Move in, what's the fuss?
by sukhi on Jul 17, 2007 04:42 PM Permalink
Hey. man.. I think ur making hell lot of money using ur wife in this business.. but I am indian and we don't do this kind of things.. anyway.. u need to ask ur mother abt ur exact father.. too.. may be ur family is into this business..:).. no prpobs it happens when a person is dis-satisfied from life and wife both..
RE:Live-in, Move in, what's the fuss?
by Rahul on Jul 17, 2007 03:35 PM Permalink
Its great to see India has lot of guys with common sense like prathap.. Atlast a few think with their brain and not their hearts.. Well said mate..
RE:Live-in, Move in, what's the fuss?
by sampath mohapatra on Jul 17, 2007 03:30 PM Permalink
Hey Partha, congrats to you. Really appreciate your forhright thoughts. You are right on target. For most people is is just clinging to some God damn old traditions. In the name of culture and relgion they would not mind even killing anyone.
I think it is immoral to have a live in relationship, and it is completely against our culture. Without the sanctity and commitment of marriage, a live in relationship degenerates to on the level of animalism, where the focus is primarily on the physical needs of the concerned persons.
we r doing everything in the name of culture and civilisation to destroy the sanctity of institute of marriage !! Dont understand why we are taking americans as role models in aspect of life ! They themselves do not know the good and bad in life...They are just rich at facilities, not at mindset and thoughts.. Why dont we follow our time tested, well established sanathan dharma...what is wrong with it ??? Ofcourse, there are bound to some drawbacks..we have to overcome the same by inducing new thougts...
RE:evrything to destroy !!!
by sampath mohapatra on Jul 17, 2007 03:23 PM Permalink
Hey GK get crap out of your sanathan dharma. Had enough of that. Get over history and live in the present. And marriage is snctimonious for whom? Were there never illicit relations in your sanathan dharma? Who was Karna?? Going to Vedas for anything and everything. There is no harm in a live in as long as it is between 2 consenting adults
RE:RE:evrything to destroy !!!
by gk on Jul 17, 2007 03:30 PM Permalink
No use of arguing ! Ancestors tested evrything and finally decided what is good for our society. If you think what you are saying is correct, Plz practise the same but do not teach all !!!
If live in leads to marriage thats fine..We are talking abt cases where it does not...
No marriage works automatically, ppl have to make it work.. there is nothin like ideal couple, made for eachother...Pl ask ur mom/dad
u dont need six long years to understand someone...
Livin is, free sex, many nights stand...
for all who support this, my final question if a gal comes to u and says i have had 3 livin relations nothing works and she wants to marry u..will u accept her? may be for arguement sake u may say yes...but it doesnt happen in real life..
I agree it happens ..but there is no need for media to hightlight...its individuals choice!
RE:Livin is, free sex, many nights stand...
by sampath mohapatra on Jul 17, 2007 03:19 PM Permalink
Listen dude, you get into a relationship with someone only when you find something in common with the other person. If a gal come up who has been in 3 live ins but I find that I like her and there is some chemistry between us then I would go for her. I you can accept a divorcee then you can accept a live in as well.
It all depends upon in which social circle you live.Neena Gupta film actress gave birth to a child fathered by Viv Richards.According to her she is having no problem with this arrangement. So it depends in which social circle you live.In India this kind of relationship is just not acceptable in middle class or hgher middle class.You may find this type of relationship either in a very lower class of people or may be in very high class group of people. Both kind of people have different explanation for this kind of reltionship but one factor is common that is both classes do not care about society. This type of relationship may be good for above two class of people but for rest of the people marriage is still a respectable and only acceptable institution. They find Live in relationship too western and result of these relationship is always short lived tenure.
RE:Live in relationship
by sukhi on Jul 17, 2007 04:08 PM Permalink
gr8 going dost.. very well written and explained.. to the people like Sampath and Parthapratim.. guys do take some lesson from Mr.Dogra..
RE:Live in relationship
by malik mohd on Jul 17, 2007 03:24 PM Permalink
VERY WELL WRITTEN MR. DOGRA THIS IS THE NEED OF THE HOUR TO ANSWER THIS TYPE OF SILLY ARTICLES AND QUESTION AND ANSWER. THIS IS THE WAY WESTERNISED PERSONS SOCILISING THE UGLY LIFE OF THEIR INTO OUR HOLY LIVES.
