Its kind of funny to see some people commenting about a bond they don%u2019t fully understand. A live in relationship is definitely not a relationship based on convenience. And if they think it is, then for such people even marriage should be all about convenience. Just like in a marriage, partners in a live in relationship also have to go through a lot of adjustments and the very fact that you have moved in together echoes a lot of commitment. There are people here who called it a %u201Cno strings attached relationship.%u201D Such people have seriously warped ideas in their heads. How is it a no strings attached relationship when you are going back to each other every night and when you cook together, clean together, shop for home together, take care of each other and share all your worries and achievements? I lived alone in a rented apartment for four years before I moved in with my partner who was also living alone in an accommodation provided by his employers. We %u201Clived in%u201D for close to a year and a half before we got married. If we wanted a no strings attached relationship, there was scope enough to have a good time and move on. How is it convenient for me to leave my set house of 4 years, give up my freedom, look for another house and start adjusting with an individual and his ideas in life? How is it convenient for him to leave his free accommodation, leave his freedom, look for a rented apartment with me and start setting up a house from scratch? Convenient would have been to meet a
Its kind of funny to see some people commenting about a bond they don%u2019t fully understand. A live in relationship is definitely not a relationship based on convenience. And if they think it is, then for such people even marriage should be all about convenience. Just like in a marriage, partners in a live in relationship also have to go through a lot of adjustments and the very fact that you have moved in together echoes a lot of commitment. There are people here who called it a %u201Cno strings attached relationship.%u201D Such people have seriously warped ideas in their heads. How is it a no strings attached relationship when you are going back to each other every night and when you cook together, clean together, shop for home together, take care of each other and share all your worries and achievements? I lived alone in a rented apartment for four years before I moved in with my partner who was also living alone in an accommodation provided by his employers. We %u201Clived in%u201D for close to a year and a half before we got married. If we wanted a no strings attached relationship, there was scope enough to have a good time and move on. How is it convenient for me to leave my set house of 4 years, give up my freedom, look for another house and start adjusting with an individual and his ideas in life? How is it convenient for him to leave his free accommodation, leave his freedom, look for a rented apartment with me and start setting up a house from scratch?
i fully agree with the concept of live in relationship.one needs to know the other person in a right way.this concept is working well in western countries and it is the need of the hour specially in india where marriage law(hindu marriage act)is totally outdated.
This concept has not worked out in the West. Even past their mid-age and after many relationships people are absolutely insecure and take to the company of alcohol or drug abuse becoz of disappointement in relationships. Children take to criminal activities/drugs since they do not get teh care of mom and dad.
After seeing this model fail totally there, this QUEStION itself is unwarranted...ONLY FOOLS WILL SUPPORT IT WITHOUT THINKING ABT. COSEQUENCES...Every r.ship we need to give something so that we can take something....
I think accepting live-in relationships would bring more complications in the society. It basically means having the conjugal relationship but evading the responsibility attached to it through marriage. Of course, the system of marriage, in its present form, is in jeopoardy, mainly due to prohibitive costs involved. Even after spending lakhs of rupees, you just cannot be sure about fate of the marriage. A number girls in our surroundings have remained unmarried on this account.
Instead of giving sanction to live-in relationships, we must bring some reforms in the marriage system itself. Some reforms have been suggested by Delhi Gurdwara Prabhandak Committee for the Sikh community to reduce the costs. These can be adopted by other communities also. Some improvements are are required in divorce laws so that it does not take years to move out of a failed marriage and to tie a new bond.
RE:Child of a live in couple
by Suresh Kumar on Jul 18, 2007 07:42 AM Permalink
Live in relationship does not mean you go have child or you should not have child. You miss the point Reidf. The topic is just about live in relationship and what is your opinion on that. We are not talking about having child in live in relationship; that should be a different topic here. Karan and you have not understood the point at all. Wake up and do something else than talking pointless.
I disagree with all those ppl who think that Live-in relationships promote pre-marital sex. Ppl indulge in it anyway. Live-in is not just about sex, it also about knowing the other person, cutting costs in expensive urban cities. Plus it's a personal choice.
In the last 60 years of independence,India has developed equal to 150 years of progress, which West had made,Our all laws are on the basis of British Laws,whatever changes are made in Indian judiciary, social system etc.,etc., are based on Western system.For example,legally what is the role of parents or any other relations in sons/daughters marriage.As such, nobody can stop India to be westernised, it is a matter of few years, say another 50 or so at least for educated class. Live in relationship is at low profile today, but it will become common.
first of all its not our culture, secondly this is for those who just dont want to take responsibilities. They really look for these kind of relationships to satisfy there urges. Lekin these kind relation are not strong and r not really bonded to each other. After few years u feel bore of these relationships. Iam totally against of these live in relationships. Iam happily maaried to my husband we had a courship period of around 7-8 years par than also i dont feel like living together before marriage. I dont feel these relations r required in our lives.
RE:live-in relationships?
by sampath mohapatra on Jul 17, 2007 06:14 PM Permalink
Rubbish reasoning. To satisfy urges you do not need a relation ship. You can do that anyways. What you did was your choice, great for you if you have found true happiness. But do not be judgemental about others' choices. Culture thing is crap. There is lot in our so called culture whih is disgusting.
