with the increase in educational levels among ladies and good remunerative jobs, they do not want to be tied down to someone in the name of marriage without knowing him completely well. with this objective in view, live-in relationships are welcome. but, the vast majority of such couples go for extra marital affairs being independent of each other without any commitment. this poses great danger for their health as well as entering into marriaage after some time. they become diffident about each other in trusting and their prospect of finding a suitable partner and raise a family also become bleak. so,it is advisable to avoid live-in relationships.
RE:is it ok?
by Deepak Yadav on Jul 17, 2007 12:54 PM Permalink
You have summed up the topic. 99.9999% Indians can't accept their sister to be in a live-in relationship.
RE:is it ok?
by Injun Abhi on Jul 17, 2007 02:14 PM Permalink
What is the sister says that she is willing to live-in before marriage? Should you stop her forcibly? If yes, it means that you don't care for your sister's happiness .. you just want to feed your own ego. It is your own peace and happiness that you care about.
i feel one should not encourage this act,as such after marraige also there is lot of ardjustment if its love marriage,arrange marriage or live in relationship so its better we accept this as surprise package get married rest all later.
for instance if live in relationship if it doesnt work people part with pinch of salt and after long stay why invite all this problem.
Hi Lets us not try to follow the western culture in each and every thing we do in life. Lets keep up the individuality and follow the Indian Way Of Living. Rediff Kindly don't bring in these kind of topics for discussion. Its totally irrelevant in Indian Context
RE:Rediff Please publish some useful topics
by Injun Abhi on Jul 17, 2007 02:18 PM Permalink
Please don't use the phrase 'Western Culture'-it is as if you are blaming the west for everything 'evil' in India. Just try to comment on the topic using your own judgement and common sense. People are the same everywhere, their hopes and desires are the same. It is society which imposes rules on them. Do not think that all Indian women and men are practicing celibacy. Even they would want to try out different things with different people but society does not permit them to do that. This is not democracy. Then what would be the difference between the Talibans and us?
It is ok as long as couple practicing same are mature enough to handle such a relationship.Live in relationship is not to be taken as a license to freak and flirt around.It is basically an opportunity to know each other better.
In Indian scenario, the male gets a lot of relief from legal angle when in live-in relation.
Again in Indian context the female is at risk if her partner is inclined to take advantage of the live-in relationship.
The choice is entirely personal.A successful live in relation can be termed as an Ideal Marraige.
RE:Live-in Relation is ok
by Shankar Anand on Jul 17, 2007 01:33 PM Permalink
Well. When we are able to accept our sister to be in a live in relationship, we can say that we are mature enough to really accept it. Or better, if we are mentally ready to marry a girl who was in a live in relationship earlier which didnot work out, we can say we are ready for it.
I do not think this will ever work at all. Even Indian living in the US still do not accept Western Cultures to be infilterated into their ideologies. It is right to know each other as far as possible before tying the knot but for this you do not have to live in the same room & have a sexual affair which is bound to happen. Lets not become like the Westerners who even meet their parents only on Fathers/Mothers Day. It is necessary to have a healthy relationship rather than a flirty one.
RE:Are you open to live-in relationships?
by Injun Abhi on Jul 17, 2007 02:29 PM Permalink
The reason westerners visit their parents only once a year is that they are independent and are encouraged very early in their lives to live separately and independently. In the west boys and girls live separately from the age of 16, their parents encourage them to get on with thyeir lives and they get on with theirs. There a lot of jobs available for them stating from working in gas stations, pizza shops, waiting tables etc. Indians stick with their parents till early to mid twenties out of necessity my friend .. because typically an Indian graduates at the age of 22-23 and then he/she takes another 2-3 years minimum to settle down properly. Don't think Indians love their parents more than westerners, it is just that they are compelled by lack of income/lack of career choices and the pampering that they get for free. And I want to ask you a question, is it ok if an Indian male brings home a wife and has sex in the room next to their parents in the same house? Why not stay separately, be independent and be a real 'MAN'? It is time to develop a spine, my good friend!
RE:Hi
by sampath mohapatra on Jul 17, 2007 03:15 PM Permalink
Who the hell is asking your permission. You know I have sc...ing your wife without your knowledge. Is your sanctimonious constitution of marriage ok with it?
It is always better to enter into a live-in relationship before committing to marriage. That gives an oppurtunity to know each other better and may also serve as being the right tool for choosing like minded partners.
RE:Live-in relationships
by Shankar Anand on Jul 17, 2007 01:34 PM Permalink
Well. When we are able to accept our sister to be in a live in relationship, we can say that we are mature enough to really accept it.
Or better, if we are mentally ready to marry a girl who was in a live in relationship earlier which did not work out, we can say we are ready for it.
This relationship is completely a personal matter, up to what level it should go ahead. It is very essential relationship to know each other completly and to develop mutual understanding. It gives copule freedom to take deceisons in any case
