To talk live-in relationship sounds good but it should end up to marriage. One should not go life lone for live -in relationship. In simple terms accepting marriage means 2 accept responsibilities & 2 go life time for live-in relationship means avoiding the responsibilities.
1. Its individual preerence whether to marry or to live-in. In upper middle, upper and lower strata of society, living-in is so common. Only the middle class, who lust and fear of everything worry about any concept.
2. It solely depends on a person, to choose his religious, societal, cultural spheres of life etc.... according to constitution, living-in is LEGAL.
3. If there's a physical or emotional or financial incompatibility between the pair, better is to try out live-in, and if both like each other's company and are confident and excited about taking the relationship further, great.. (recent survey says 33% .. that is 1/3rd of most Indian men do not measure up and also are prone to infertility and have ED and PE.
4. In any relationship, people need to understand and live happily.... not to ADJUST. In many marriages, (marriage - also called as legalized prostitution by philosophers by the similarity in ideology) Indian woman are the sufferers... Now, we see economic and societal freedom accessible to many girls who are capable of deciding their future.... its their sole choice...
5. If someone here gonna say only marriage, religion and customs make up Indian society, better read history..... Its known for ages that Indian Society is made of acceptance of new thoughts and tolerance.... Religious people can refere Rig veda.. which says in its 1st Phrase.."let ideas come and be accepted from all over the world"....
Y should society try to stop anything before tried?
RE:Awareness matters
by ars on Sep 17, 2007 12:01 PM Permalink
BY ARS,
ONLY TIME WILL TELL, WHETHER LIVE-IN RELATIONSHIP IS GOOD OR BAD. SO FAR WE HAVE BEEN USED TO THE PRESENT STATE OF LIVING TOGETHER WITH 'MARRIAGE' AS 'TAG' TO THAT.
This whole category is wrong, marriage asks for trust, communication and honesty, live-in also asks for the same. Is marriage more no is live in m ore no. It has to do with 2 people and their hearts. We all capitalize on marriage what it should be and our culture is preserved in all ways when we live according to our culture and give each other those rights. What does culture have to do with living together,its bad its against indian culture the west is forgetting the roots, when a man beats his wife where does our culture come in. We all try to run, when women die evryday somewhere by the hands of a man or get abused where is the culture the strong indian culture. We are forgetting living in sin is in God's eyes not human eyes. I believe that marriage is strong and should be and I also believe that live in is strong its the meeting of the hearts. We should never say one is less degrading than the other because we all have feelings and sometimes what is best for us depends on us. We are in control of our lives not culture. life is love, trust, communication, and honesty thats what is in a marriage and thats what is in a live in if we all were to follow. Let's leave culture out when culture has its faults that for generations has been hidden.
First of all Live-in-relationship is not an ideological concept to Indian society. I don%u2019t understand why now a day similar kind of subject is coming for a debate. I believe some gals are interested to have physical relation ship with guys and then them persuading society to accept this as Live-in-Relationship. Ultimately Live-in-Relationship is nothing but only a physical relation ship between two individuals. I don%u2019t understand how the current busy life schedule those individuals are going to know more about his/her partner%u2019s behavior and attitudes while just living together for a limited period other than doing sex. Before giving support to this western concept of Live-in Relationship, we must watch the current situation what is going on in western world. In a recent survey reveled that younger generation in western countries especially in UK is closely watching Indian culture and our system of marriage, and they are following and adopting Indian system of marriage concept because it is giving them a long run married life together than before. So, those who are supporting this concept or interested in this Live-in-relationship, go ahead for it, why do you want to indulge others in to your thoughts which is totally against our Indian culture.
A family is secure and peaceful if all in t family feel secure and are at peace. Secrity i mean the security in relationship.The man shud feel secure abt his woman and vice versa.
In a society all men and women are not the same.Every one has their own moral values and maturity depending on how they are brought up and t environment in which they survive. Marriage is a standard which tries to provide security interms of relationship.It can be either flourish or flop depending on the commitment to marriage by a man or woman.For a responsible person, it facilites his commitment.and for an irresponsible person it demands commitment. Either way it tries to provide more security to both involved though t person under t yoke thinks otherwise.
Live in relationships also depend on t commitment of the man and woman involved but the bond here is more of ethical nature and both are not really careful abt their character , the relnship is too vulnerable to flop.the responsibility is too much on individual shoulders to take utter care that they r trustworthy of the other.
For me it is very simple, Trsut needs no system. I am not a platonic thinker but it is very much practi. Secondly Marriage System is very much gender discriminatory where women has been given not only lower position but also treated as an instrument for pleasure than human being...
Someday there is need to do research as who goes for multiple partners... is it married one or Live-in one. But in today's society married ppl 'go out'....
What one expects from a relationship? an obvious reply is trust, love and emotional security. And this requirement is common for every human, irrespective of whichever religion or culture u belong to. When it comes to spending whole life with somebody what matters more is that these emotional requirements may get fulfilled. In thousands of cases they are not met in a marriage. At the same time, live in sort of relations also do not guarantee a full life relationship, it stands true. But, being involved in a live in relationship or being part of a marriage is a matter of individual decision. Which, One should be free enough to take. Uproar on this issue, just for the sake of preserving cultural identity is questionable. How can anybody claim that there is no place for bonding or attachment is such relations? It is far, far better than a marriage that exists without love. Because, in a live in relationship what keeps two p'pl together is mutual trust and love, and not enjoyment.
RE:why so much uproar
by Abdul Haleem on Jul 30, 2007 08:55 PM Permalink
Live in relationship is not at all advisable at least in indian culture and elsewhere as well, iam indian i respect our traditional values and this will permit us to invoke this kind of relation ship, when i talk relgious point of you, ISLAM and hinduism, it is not at all permissable, we are human so we have to obey to what our religion says, do not conflict.
What one expects from a relationship? an obvious. And this requirement is common for every human, irrespective of whichever religion or culture u belong to. When it comes to spending whole life with somebody what matters more is that these emotional requirements may get fulfilled. In thousands of cases they are not met in a marriage. At the same time, live in sort of relations also do not guarantee a full life relationship, it stands true. But, being involved in a live in relationship or being part of a marriage is a matter of individual decision. Which, One should be free enough to take. Uproar on this issue, just for the sake of preserving cultural identity is questionable. How can anybody claim that there is no place for bonding or attachment is such relations? It is far, far better than a marriage that exists without love. Because, in a live in relationship what keeps two p'pl together is mutual trust and love, and not enjoyment.
