I believe this way: Since in ancient days human kind have had sexual intercourse with many individuals and to bring that under control, the system of Marriage was found - means, one woman for a man. Later that has become like a mandatory duty in society, like, okay - he's 25 and have to get married. Reason : Honestly speaking, to fulfil the sexual needs and for reproduction. No offense, but this must be the truth. After all coming across this fact, i believe that marriage is not a must one! It's my personal view and not conclude on anyone else.. ;)
RE:RE:What does it mean..?
by kathir mani on Feb 10, 2007 09:31 AM Permalink
I just wanted to put out my thoughts on why and how marriage system has formed.. emotions, love and sharing of feelings n thoughts must've come later only.. otherwise, y do u fall in love or crush with so many and not only with ur wife..? And, ofcourse, i respect the relation as life partners as i'm seeing my parents, my friends' parents, relatives from childhood.. u better don't take it in other way around.. :)
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by mohan krishna on Feb 10, 2007 09:53 AM Permalink
Mr. Mani,we are humans not animals; sex is only a part of life; you will have to other part - your HEAD, which others cannot.
RE:What does it mean..?
by diptrup chakraborti on Feb 10, 2007 10:46 AM Permalink
Hi Mani I partially agree with you. Anthropological data prooves that man or woamn are not meant to be monogamous, and mariage is an invention to prevent chaos. At the same time, one cant deny that perhaps a equal number of men and women are marrying for love and eternity as those who are marrying for sex, reproduction and societal fears. If the latter was not true, why do in all surveys men want virgins as wives. Simple. They want the first bite of the apple.
I'm singl and prefer it that way because I can pamper myself.look after me and enjoy life to the fullest. If I feel lonely at times I go out to a movie. But I know I'll have my company till the end of my life. Other relationships are never for ever. So 3 cheers to singledom
RE:being single
by surajit sarkar on Feb 10, 2007 02:31 PM Permalink
thank kornika,but one thing if everyone follow you then one day THE HOMOSEPIANS SPE. WILL BE ENDENGERD.
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by moon mountain on Feb 15, 2007 11:06 PM Permalink
surajit sarkar forget homo sapiens getting endangered there r 600 crores of them, 1st ensure food, clean water education and a decent life to all these. then u cud bother single n happy people to have children. y dont u make a difference in the life of 100s of children suffering on the streets ?
RE:being single
by abhijeet singh on Feb 10, 2007 10:00 AM Permalink
I absolutely agree with what you said. I too feel exactly the way you do. I love my solutude and the most strongest reason being that I can pamper myself like anything. I enjoy the life to the fullest and treat myself the best at the most expensive places I can afford. I never felt like having a wife or a GF around. I feel royal, when I am in my company. and the best part is that I get to use my head more the 10%( what most average married people do)
i think being single gives us freedom not only from day to day pressures of family but it also makes us free to apply ourselves more and let us build our own world which we can take charge of. i live single even though my parents live in same city with a big big house. im attached to them and pay them regular visits but living single is preferable. im not thinking bout marriage coz before that i need a sucessful relationship which i can trust on. no matter what my age will be, as far as i cant find my true match, living single is great and i enjoy every moment of it. this indian family system and society has nothing to offer in good way anyway, so why to care for something who doesnt care for you in constructive way.
RE:better
by sukalyan swar on Feb 09, 2007 06:16 PM Permalink
you must have a cordial and firm believe in relationship. We are born in relationship. We can build a relation in no time and also destroy a relation by same. Important is how you maintain the relation. Some times it does not work. But we must be positive when taking or evaluating a relation on own aspect.
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by Ajeya on Feb 10, 2007 02:37 AM Permalink
Dear Sukhwinder... Please learn to think and not just blindly ape & gape at conventions. Always remember that conventions are not made for rigid and blind following but are more as per the need of the times and its perfectly human to re-evaluate them and re-apply them with present needs. the origin of marraige for your very kind information was nothing but plain and simple legalisation of sex so as to restrain the weak & loose minded from running amock in the society... the saat pheras & shlokas followed afterwards to add some more sanity to this process and drill down the meaning further in the in those minds that just can't understand the meaning and significance of human relations unless they are quoted and bound into a set of rules.....grow up sukhi...its high time!!
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by Sukhwinder on Feb 10, 2007 03:05 AM Permalink
Thanks for the advise Ajeya. But I really don't need a lecture in sociology or social morality. I for one could care less for conventions. You are, as they say, preaching to the choir!
I see insomnia is a real big club of Rediff. And rambling on with inane, psuedo-intellectual platitudes seems to be the remedy of choice.
So instead asking me to grow up why don't you go to sleep. You girls/ladies really need to!
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by Shridhar Aiyer on Feb 10, 2007 10:27 PM Permalink
sukhi, you seem to be all about people sleeping well, taking Psychiatric treatment and imposing your unwanted vocabulary on every body else and you seem damn pissed with the world man.. What happened? Are you a English teacher who has been jailed or something..?
There are too many people in this country..its high time that we promote singleness:)..and then after some time, when the population reaches a comfortable level, demote it..thatz very cynical, right?? just joking..i believe everyone has the right to live single. Those who need it, recognize the rights and are unafriad of the social consequences will choose it. Those who fall in all the other categories will one day get married n reproduce..think about it..how many of us will like to live a solitary life?? just a handful, right? Let them enjoy their freedom and solitude.
RE:Truth
by Gopu Prakash on Feb 09, 2007 04:55 PM Permalink
oh yeah..single also do..they are also human..u can be a single, but u cant be a loser, rt??
It really depends on the situation you are in. But for me being single is the worst. People become hypocs when they are single and pretend that they are happy then says that single life is better. After you cross 25 (specially girls) they become more carried oriented and every time they see a guy as future partner they start comparing with him and at that time their proioriity is their carrier but they think its marriage and get confuse. This confusion takes them to 30s which is the difficult age to adjust with partner as they get used to their own way of life. But yes Its just my way of seeing..not for all..so it depends.... Dr. Ram Deshmukh
I am so glad that you don't write prescriptions for me. What do you mean by: "They become carried oriented"??; " at that time their proioriity is their carrier ";
It is apparent that you have either been sniffing or tasting your "own medicine" before writing this.
For the sake of the rest of mankind. I hope you are a Ph.D in Mathematics! The formulae may be in jeopardy but humans will be safe!!
RE:RE:Depends
by on Feb 10, 2007 01:04 AM Permalink
Sukhwinder....
After reading your two replies..I think either you are under Psychiatric help/treatment or need one.. You are here with your views not to share but to push on others...or something... Its a debate...say if you really have a point... I see that you are concentrating more on what the words are...how they r fomed....BUT NOT what they really mean....which is more important... Relationship has more to do with the feelings and trust...TRY N TAKE A CLOSER look..it just might change ur views...
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by mihir rajda on Feb 10, 2007 06:44 AM Permalink
are u here 2 mek ev1 sleep??? we will sleep calmly..but u need 2 worry abt urslf..wid d kind of frustration u r in, i doubt hw cn u slp..or is it dat u hvnt slpt 4 days already..n by d way if u trying 2 b so perfectionist den better undstnd d diff betwn "carrier" n "career" and den write it..but v all undstnd yaar..its difficult 4 a spoilsport like u 2 accept..all dat u write and xprss is so vague..describes n justifies y u r like dis..m nt asking u 2 change..pls dnt..v njy 2 read replies dat a fool like u keeps on posting..n njy 2 write u bck, only 2 mek u realise d fact dat ur end of intelligence is basically d start point of a fool...thanx 4 ur entertainment!!!
RE:Depends
by krishna thacker on Feb 09, 2007 05:51 PM Permalink
Dr. Deshmukh, I do appreciate and agree to what you have said, It is quite an objective viewpoint than just some personal experiece.& just to add a point. Very less number of ppl. are actually capable (emotionally, psychologically & spiritually) of living their lives in a healthier manner without a family..And I want to make a point here agaist those who keep on saying things like "its just your personal choice/belief and no one has to do anything with what you believe" No nothing is so personal ...we all are much more iterconnected that a lot of us can ever imagine of ...and what one thinks has a lot of repurcussions on a lot of others...(both gud n bad)..just to give an may be exagerrated example..all terrorism starts from the personal belief and thought of someone ..
Since time immemorial, man has ruled the world in his own whimsical fashion. Marriage was a pertinent solution to provide emotional security and stability to the women in a societal framework. Today, the outlook of populace has migrated from a more robust,rigid, conservative structure called marriage-(institution concept) to a fragile, flexible and modern living-relation kind(free-will concept).
mostly single people who are seniors are bad co-workers. This is so common, they can put in extra hours, work on the weekends etc which a family man cannot!
Wonder what makes you feel putting in longer hours, after hours makes a person to be a bad coworker. After all, the argument could be turned around and said folks who are married are more 'greedy' thanks to their position and usurp opportunities. I do find most single persons are trustworthy and dependable for a work situation. Jai Hind.
