Agreed !!!! all ur points ... except the last line..... "After all, I will be the one paying the price for my mistakes, not anyone else"
Well, everybody has to pay the price... for all gud or bad in the world.... when it comes to humanity.... when it comes to our animal instincts... it hardly matters !! here the prey becomes the predator and the predator becomes the prey......if its mutual !!! And I believe human is intelligent enough to mutualize ... hence no regrets !!!
i agree with author ,however women are the ones in most cases heartbroken or used.i dont think most of the men mind having an affair or one night flings.
Human being is a social animal. There are three basic reasons for marriage.
The first n most important is understanding other. Isn't this one of the most important part of human life? Are you to able to understand other properly? Are you able to communicate your thought properly? Can you understand others feelings/thoughts? Can you think for others?? (i mean by others view point). No doubt you would find some of these qualities in your best friend - Someone who understands you.
Second reason is that human being always need some to encourage him or listen to him, share his feelings with. How does it feel when some carries your bag and offers you water/tea without asking when you reach home from office? You feel that someone loves/cares about you. Someone is thinking of you. All this gives so much of happiness. How would a kid feel if he has no one at home to show his '1st prize' or even a 'very good' remark? so how can sex be a pleasure??? even if you feel it is, is it stable and long lasting? So, if you marry someone with opp thinking & still manage a happy mar. life, u have rised high in your life.
Your friend is 50% right and 40% wrong and i would give 10% for the not so sure. 50% right because, in the present scenario, u will definitely come across many people due to their social and work commitments engage in a relationship with a man/woman who does not need to be their loved ones. Such people just for the reason that they have to achieve something in their jobs, have to adjust to the situation and have sex. 40$ people are like you who only want to have sex with their life partners. 10% for the people who do not have clear mind and understanding about sex.
Just one question to all the readers who oppose this article.
You would feel it's funny butthink and you will know it's not.
Why we human beings get attracted/aroused only by another beautiful woman/man and not by seeing a "naked" Dog or any other animal? Also, the dog does get aroused by seeing a naked men/women. why??
Hint: What makes human beings stand different from others?
It's because the reason for sexual arousal is not in the beautiful men/women. but it lies in your mind and controlled by it. So, when next when you see some one beautiful and feel aroused and say he/she is sexy. Better think how much control youhave on your own thinking.
Only then you would understand the need for meditation/concentration/idol workship. These are the times when you try and restrict your thinking and gain control over it.
If we as human beings don't have control on our thinking then I just can't imagine what kind of society we would have??
-- we can't be human being by birth, it takes lot for being human. if not then what's humanity?? :)
Having sex is a personal choice either for pure physical pleasure or as another form of exercise.It is a very natural urge as God has made us like that.Some want it very badly but can't find a mature woman.Others go for it and do find one.On the whole,the most vital guideline should be to have SAFE sex with MUTUAL CONSENT.Of course it should be an enjoying experience.No one should feel guilty after the same as it is VERY,VERY natural to feel attraction for members of the opposite sex.
I appreciate the way the lady has written the article. Going by the responses of today's sex surveys, one should feel insecure at the way people behave sexually. My wish is that I get a spouse who thinks the way the author does.
We know how successful marriages are(or aren't) presently.Hence getting into a relationship and it being successful, the probability is the same. Besides sex is highly overated in India, some of the points given in support also defy what she is tryin to suggest. But u can't deny that its a highly individaul thing as we have the saying "Different strokes for different folks"
