Being a 2.5yr banglorean male, i too faced the exact situation like you. I gave a great deal of thought regarding it ( atleast i feel so). I drew self conclusion that its mere confusion of minds w.r.t age. First why i gave a great deal of thought reg. this? Because i am constantly given signals from my freinds(girls) and colleagues(again girls) who are little or more of flamboyant type. I didn't restored for free/open sex though i stay alone in my 2BHK flat, single and charming, earn good bucks , the reason is my morale does not support that. My freinds(boys) simply would try me to have sex on the expence of their curosity/envy/idia to make me like them.
Flamboyant people think that they can carry history of pre/extra marital sex relationship history througout their life (with or without their spoces knowledge), but i am damn sure that they will hit the roadblock atleast one moment of their lives where they have to pay bigger price for their act of past (...may the block be even mental agony).
Don't confuse yourself as your questionaire is really appreciable and justifies that human relationship prevail/defined beyond sex.
I do agree at some point that yes we are gear up for having a sex on this earth on the contrary I also agree with the fact that taking a chance to have a relationship with a married man who can not leave his wife and child/children for you that makes you feel actually cheated and used. The second feeling of being cheated and used is most prevalent after such a relation but at time the momentary happiness gives you strength to live and to struggle in your day to day life. So, do whatever you want to do eventhough you know the facts beforehand but never repent as you have committed some crime but always learn from your past.
Hey firstly let me say a very well written article. As someone who is single and just turned 30 myself I totally agree with all the points that you put forward.
My take is that sometimes people get so carried away with the stupid myths that media portrays about sex that they simply behave as if its true. The media sells the idea of sex to adults as it does santa claus to children.
Thanks for a well written article with valid and thought provoling points. Hope to read more from you n the future.
This is one voice of sanity in the sea of uninhibited sex and self expression that the Internet has introduced to us. In the world of online chatting, everyone is fair game and people just about do anything.It is pleasant to read about someone who has convictions and is about to forego sex for it when things seem to be happening the other way round.
Man is made for pleasures and sex is one of them. I don't believe there is much wrong in sex before marriages, but after marriage one must be loyal to one's partner.
Dear Author, I am in complete agreement with your thoughts. I wish you should spread such a views more and more to strengthen the character of our Indian youths to upbuilt our nation. This is the point where we are ahaed of our western counterparts for ages and ages. Its our strength.
In the time of globalization we need this commitments more. I have seen so many many persons to have a indifferent, aimless and dissatisfied married life, simply beacuse of pre-marial amusement sex!!.
Although I do not really agree or disagree with you (your friend has better arguments than you do), my main concern was with one point - rape. Rape is not sex, my dear. Rape produces trauma because it was not sex. Does sex produce trauma? No. So, yes, we ARE geared for sex. By comparing sex with rape (I thought you would be grown up at 30), you show a need for a psychiatrist yourself. It is SEX that is enjoyable, not RAPE, because it is not a forced act like rape is. Rape is domination and subjugation - therefore, it hurts, just like an act of beating someone in public - the physical scars may heal - the mental ones are difficult - because it happens against one's wishes.
