Some more facts to arm yourself against such debates .... A renowned biologist says we are biologically wired for a one-to-one relationship! There is something called imprinting that happens in human beings - once when a child is born, it gets imprinted in its mind that so and so is its mother, the reverse - mother-child imprinting and thirdly during sexual intercourse between two partners(not necessarily the first time it happens). Such imprintings are irreversible processes. This is the reason why he says despite social pressures and even threat of murder,two lovers cannot seperate. There is also another reason for the concept of marriage and relationship. Human babies need long term care and attention than any (or most)other animal. This role can be performed only by the mother, hence the division of work that mother runs the family while the father hunts for food. While in today's world such division is not always required, it has still programmed us to a family relationship. Though a bachelor who cannot vouch for arguments for or against pre-marital sex, I still feel one canlearn and enjoy a lot through committment and trust, in any sphere of life!
I have gone through your comments/ views on sex. I completely agree with you. Tou are not old fashioned or conservative. Its not a game that you just play and forget. Physical meeting (sexual) without being in love with some one and most importantly with out being a part of her/his life is nothing but an unethical act.
so never feel that you are old fashioned or some thing like that. tou are completely fair and decent in your thinking and approach.
I absolutely agree with you. You are not old fashioned, prude, naive, stupid or watsoever today's world will call. Your convictions are worth it.So stick to them and don't care for people saying anything, afterall its your life and you will have to pay the price of your doings.
These realtionships won't get you anything except for depression, feel of being used once someone dumps you because there's always chances of nyone falling for you seriously and if one of them is not interested then it will definetly gonna land you in hell.
So for me its a complete NO! NO! and it looks good only in confines of marraige.
RE:dffj
by Kokila on Aug 01, 2006 02:53 PM Permalink
I agree with you. God holds us accountable for every action we do. Sex outside marriage is not pleasing to God. For those who do not believe in God, He still exists no matter what we believe and will hold us accountable!
