No Sarah you aint a prude but you are a perfect example of the difference between animals and us. And more specifically the difference between men and women.
Women seek and to my mind rightly so a strong emotional and mental connect before the natural progression in the physical act. While men with their largely uni-dimensional personality would perhaps not think too much about getting into bed with a woman.
And yes the reason we are different from animals is that we would not have sex with just about anyone from opposite gender. Because we can feel, we can connect, and we always carry strong emotional baggage.
And 'no sex please, I am single' well i think you probably not come across a person yet with whom you have felt the brain tingle... and when it does, that would be the Mr Right Guy and it would not matter whether marriage is on cards or not.
yes You're absolutely correct. as per your friend's claim if sex is only for fun and pleasure what is the distinction between man and animal?where has gone the sixth sense? If any man and woman can mate at any point of time for fun healthy society cannot exist. We will become worse than the stray dogs or any other species which have only male female sense!Everyone male or female has the right to have good sex with full enjoyment under a permanent source in life (avoid AIDS!!)
Its a long time since I'm replying to an article positively. I agree with you and surely would like to add on a few comments. I'm not sure if you agree with me, but God had a purpose behind creating us as human beings and not as animals (i.e. dolphins, etc). Its only human being who's created in His image, so naturally He wants us to be as He is. Of course, He made us sexual beings, but surely to enjoy it within marriage. We often disagree, but the truth is evident to all who fall prey to it outside and repent later as your friend said it. There are very few who have tried it outside marriage, and after realizing, be ready to agree that it harms badly. We can only realize the physical aspects of it before falling prey to it, but the emotional trauma and the mental effects that it has can only be felt later. Only one who has burnt his/her fingers knows the pain of burning. So, still if a person disagrees let him/her suffer the pain after enjoying the pleasure. Else wait till you get married and enjoy a healthy sexual life throughout your life. Once more I would like to congratulate you for the article. A very good one. Keep it up. God bless you.
Your say is perfectly fit and it best explains the need for a deterministic approach in present system. One needs to think, commit and believe themselves before having sexual inter-course. No matter how old-fashioned or naive it is.... Its the best way to go along and gives you self satisfaction and belief that we are doing nothing wrong (by mind and heart). You can have different relationship with other humans- sharing view and having love (by heart), but sex should be with spouse only or else you cant diferentiate social animals from the animals we see in our roadside. My best wishes to the writer and hats off for her boldness.
This article is really nice.It mentions how valuble relationships are and how it must be conserved.Now not only boys but girls are also throwing themselves to these type of bad relationship...its a pity...its the fall of our culture or is it westanization...
I agree with you totally on this. The way you have put it will open the eyes of many single people who think that sex is purely for pleasure. You have explained things beatifully that we are human, not animals.
I read Sarah's comments and her justification with amusement. She seems to belong to that ilk who thinks that she can only have fulfilling sex with the so-called Mr. Right.
The question that remains unanswered of course, is how will she identify Mr. Right? How will she know that Mr. Right is the right sexual partner for her without having sex with him? Will she know because he sweeps her off her feet with roses and diamonds till she falls deeply in love like she romantic she professes to be? And then either marry him first to have sex or have sex with him anyway?
What happens if he turns out to be impotent or inadequate in bed? Will he still be Mr. Right for Sarah? Is sexual pleasure subservient to marriage or to love?
I agree that humans do not having mating seasons, but tyhe purpose of sex is not just mating. It is also pleasure that that's what sets humans apart from most others. Sarah is right. She's naive, but not in the way she thinks. There is nothing wrong in her stand of not wanting casual sex. In fact it is laudable. But her justifications are all over the place.
She seems to think that sex for pleasure is wrong, and there I agree - it is a puritanical concept.
