Just wondering how so many participate in such a sort of discussion, which is totally depending on individual's sentiment. It's a useless topic and one should not be worthy of being credited for describing his/her views on this!!!
dear author, i completely agree with u that without goin in a real relationship -sex is no-no.2day's world will feel that my thoughts are old fashioned,but the truth is we are right.2days culture esp. bpo/call centre culture has doomed people.
Hi Sarah, i appreciate you for dealing such a delicate issue with maturity and sesitivity.Well i have been struggling with this issue as well.growing up india with all those socio-cultural values and then moving abroad to study further puts you in a strange spot of looking like an alien to the whole \'sex-play\'operative in the western socitey.All though you have inherited the traditional understanding of sexuality with that of commitment, the moment you land up in western socitey, you are instantly confornted with this idea of having relationship with no strings attached.How many girls have you slept with? seems to be a common question among men.In my limited experience in the west this attitude of \'disconnected connectedness\'\'freedom and space\'\'no strings\'..etc is taking its toll and visible in their social life with high percentage of breakups!In this light i am totaly insync with your thought that all that matters at the end is commitment and faithfulness and not eternally experimenting with realtionships.I am 31 and am still waiting for my Miss.Right and am happy to waite!!!
I have gone through your narration of your experience and your view about the sexual life. Your view is healthy for the humans. I completely agree with yours. Be bold more and more to take a stand on what is right and moral and even healthy for the human society.
that was interesting peice of story or ur views...i 'll defenitely say i am no less or more than u who believe in all those so called orthodos ideas..but down the land i must say we sometimes felt left out cos i am 24 now and have a good steady relnship but never i did enter in that cocoon thinking about marriage with the one of cos who dont want to get married to his /her love but we all kept taht in our destint ..u might say yah we are the destiny itself very true ..but sometimes everything we want we dont get and we ve been cultured in that way and dats the way we all started living our way ....
this is not wat i am saying everyone is having sex in thier relationship but when you are in love u never know all this happens in the blink and u can say defenitely that why cant we control our emotions yah love is blind and blah bla ....it goes on ..
to tell you frankly it sometimes feel whatever we are doing we feel right at that right point of time unconsciously but later on when we dont get the gud result we just blame ourselves and repent it in the future ...thats the selfish part of human emotions ..i think we all sud live for the moment ..a good solution
I totally agree with u as i feel the same too, tht sex is something that can happen only if u love each other and when u love each other you actually dont call it sex...but u say ure making love.When u love somebody u really want the partner to be happy rather than just pleasing yourself.When we just have sex we think only about our pleasure which i feel is Lust and not Love. When two human beings have sex its only a medium of pleasure and when the two of them make love its a bonding of two souls.
Madam i respect ur views and thoughts abt sex ... u r absolutlly right .. sex should be with one and that too after a commited relationship that is after marriage ... God Bless u ... Good Luck for ur life i wish for ur happiness
