the issue about Zidane getting angry is justifiable but it also shows how getting angry( it was his reaction not proaction) leads to a loss to oneself and to others. i wont say that one should not get angry but it should not be like that it becomes your persona. iam, the type, who keeps everything to myself. even , i have anger problems but not of outburst but keeping within myself and thinking about it. i think it doesnt work as after a while when one keeps on thinking over it, it becomes a whirlpool and does more harm than the actual experience. therefore, iam trying my best not to get emotional and if also it is better to vent out.
very few have the capacity to remain in calm in adverse situation or while targetted for filthy comments or being push physically. i try to control first but if some one does not stop to irritate me , i react very badly then. but i cool down and forget things very easily.
I generally trembles/shivers when I got angry. I am not able to speak and the voice stammers and I am afraid too because my BP shoots up. Cooling down takes atleast one hour and I feel like sleeping. After resting a while I came to my normal position.I am 51.
Now I always try to avoid a siutation where I am in anger but this does not always help. If you have any advice, please do. tks
When I get angry by some one, I start thinking first to whay and what did make him/her to provoke me? Is that because he thinks I will take it granted or it is because he just wants to have fun or he really wants to convey any point. I try to rationalize the cause and then I also figur out how should I react. Till then I dont loose control out of me. Once I figure out the rationalize and the path forward, I stick to what I have planned for it. This I keep on iterating until the cause gets off permenantly.
Everybody has anger component in his personality. The reaction to a stimulus causing anger should be delayed by taking deep breaths and consuming a few glasses of water. Make yourselves think once again on how to react to this situation during this time that you have bought for deep breathing. I am sure atleast 50% of the reaction is lost by then.
In my case, I do not get angry quite often but when I get I usually keep quite and expose my anger either on my mother or on my wife. I used to be very angry man when I was in college and I remember I had a fight with some of my collegues. But in college and after I got salary man, I changed myself not to expose my anger outside. In the begining it was very difficult to convince my wife about this but now I think she has been used with this. I really need to recover this shortemperness. And I think I have found the right person to follow, the person is none other than my wife. I really appriciate my wife's way of expressing anger. She just keep quite and doesnt say anything to me. That makes me feel very guilty and I pledge her and try to make the way clear. Though it may take some time for me to be like her, but its better late than never.
