You have nicely brought about so many issues in a simple but thought provoking manner. I sometime really wonder why our society is so miopic when it comes to human relations. Real stories like this help us look at ourself and the society in a new light altogether.
Dear Shalini, it touched my heart. things really happen the way you described. being understanding and good observer(as i guess on reading it), u could manage to keep you ideals and manners up. but all dont have the capacity and sensitivity. society was to console theirselves as well as to ur sis that they care for them (as kids without mother) thats why they took the way irrespctive of thinking about the probable impact of such inquiries on ur sisters. such things leave an odd impression on childrens mind that they are suffereing. so they try to offend the situation and environment although it is friendly. so i think nobody is at fault but mishaps are avoided by the presence of a person like u who can understand the situation.
Shalini, it was nice to read your article.You've shared not just your experiences, but actually thrown light on so many issues, people need to learn as being part of this society.
People with their "biological siblings", themselves face so many problems in the family and most of these people are always there to interfere and poke into others' issues.
Am glad that you and your family have shared an amazing bond and have stood for each other at all times.
It is none of others business if one has a biological sister or a stepsister. The factthat all children are treated alike is a source of great consolation and it is this understanding that gives impetus to go forward. My hats off to the parents who can always treat their children - whether biological or otherwise as their own without the slightest distinction.
I really feel that our society behaves insensitively many a times. People just tend to interfere in other's personal life and they enjoy it too. Everybody has the right to live a life of one's choice. People commenting on a second meriage or a step sister / mother should think, that are they going to give emotional supprot and love to the person and his children who lost a beloved one ? and who gave a right to them to comment on a family's personal decisions ? These are unhappy and sadist people who can NOT see someone finding a meaning , love and support to life again after some incident like death or separation. They want the other person to suffer and be unhappy forever. That's the reason thay always comment and interfere in other's life. Otherwise what can be the purpose of their comments ? God bless such people.
The greatest happiness comes into your life when you realize who you really are and stand up for it. No matter what. You are you. You are the best. Once you are happy about yourself you will find that people around you are happy too and look up to you. We have been living in a society that cares little for privacy of individuals. Nobody has any business to ask about your step-relationships. But again some people may be doing this because they care for you. Such people will know that it is a sensitive topic and be very gentle and polite about it. Your elder sister is right. If someone hurts you...just put them in their place. And learn how to speak up about how you feel about them, especially the bad kinds. Happiness always, AD
Felt like writing, but didnt find any words. Wasnt going to say "felt sorry.." but it was more on our society. Its hopeless to expect anything great from our so called society, the person goes thru this can only understand. But we are also part of that society, so cant be offensive...I do believe eskimos led peaceful life away from this societies and groups of people.
